29 Lessons I Learned In 29 Years

29 Lessons I Learned In 29 Years

29 lessons in 29 years

1. It is not always comfortable to be a nonconformist. And not everyone is supposed to understand or agree with you.

2. Loving yourself is a daily practice that begins with acceptance of everything that you are.

3. Saying “no” to requests is just as important as saying “yes” to your priorities.

4. Feeling vibrant and abundant is a choice we make every single day when we wake up.

5. Forgiveness is the conscious act of releasing the burden of carrying someone else’s mistakes.

6. Confidence derives from feeling attuned to your self-worth: with all of your flaws and imperfections.

7. All projections of our ego serve to teach us how to tame our judgment and be more compassionate with each other.

8. No one can love us the way we deserve to be loved if we don’t allow for this love to merge with our self-love.

9. If we always play “safe” because of the risk of getting hurt, we miss out on the opportunity to seize the moments when our breath gets taken away. 

10. If we base our self-esteem on someone else’s validation, we deprive ourselves of our own approval.

11. Perfectionism is unforgiving, and it prays on our insecurities.

12. The root of most of our sorrows is the self-induced belief of not being enough. 

13. Regardless of one’s upbringing or past mistakes, at the core of our being, we were born enough.

14. Proper nourishment is a form of self-respect. The body is our friend, and it deserves care and attention.

15. The abyss of our fear can only be entered with the courage to follow this fear. 

16. If we hide from our truth, no one would be able to see us as well.

17. Sharing is a form of caring: there will always be someone benefiting from our gifts and passions.

18. When we are hungry for knowledge, our mind feeds itself on discovery and inquisitiveness.

19. I wish I knew all of this when I was nineteen. 🙂

20. If we have a solid vision of what we want, we will get there even if it takes us a couple of years.

21. Our physical attributes are meaningless unless we like ourselves, even if there is no one else to praise us.

22. Our body has innate intelligence whose voice gets muted unless we learn how to “listen” to its cues. 

23. Being an eloquent communicator is derived from mastering the skills of empathy.

24. Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable and honest bridges our heart the hearts of our audience.

25. Movement and rhythm are the tools our soul uses to express herself physically.

26. The key to emotional intelligence is honoring one’s emotions without being manipulated by them.

27. Having a purpose is not the same as having hobbies. Having hobbies adds joy to our lives. Having a purpose embodies the joy.

28. There is nothing more rewarding in this world than feeling and sharing unconditional love that doesn’t involve attachments.

29. Being a conscious human being is the first step to spreading the light that lives in all of us.

Fall in love with yourself: create space for love by learning how to love and accept yourself unconditionally

Fall in love with yourself: create space for love by learning how to love and accept yourself unconditionally

Are you desperate to find a partner? This might be part of the reason you are still single. When we are feeling desperate, we repel love. When we feel whole and complete, we attract love effortlessly because we feel worthy and deserving of being loved.

Have you ever wondered if you can find the perfect partner for yourself? Have you ever been disappointed and left wondering if the “right” partner (for you) actually exists?

Have you ever given your entire attention and devotion to someone who doesn`t reciprocate your affection and loyalty the way you deserve?

Have you ever felt as if there is something “wrong” with you for not being able to attract a high-value man who reciprocates your love and affection?

Questions to consider:

  • How would you rate your satisfaction with your love life right now from1-10 (10 is best)?
  • How does it feel for you in your love life right now?
  • What’s the impact of being stuck in the current situation?
  • What’s the cost to you of staying in the same place and not achieving what you really want?
  •  How much time do you spend on attracting your dream partner right now?
  • What do you spend your time doing to attract the love of your life?
  • What positive support do you currently have to help you attract thelove of your life?
  •  How much romantic love do you have in your life right now?

The missing puzzle you might have been looking for is called self-love. Nobody can love us the way we deserve if we don`t love and accept ourselves first.

Please note that you can enroll in this program on a month-to-month basis.* If you find your ideal mate in less than six months, you don’t have to continue working with me, unless you want to. *** The results vary on your individual situation.:) By trusting the process, we allow to receive what we`d asked for at its perfect timing.
Life is too short to settle for less than what you deserve!

Love comes from ourselves first. No one can love you unconditionally if you don’t love and accept yourself first. Self-respect is key.

Life is too short to fear being in love. Our heart wants what it wants: to give and receive love effortlessly.

And we don’t have to be in a romantic relationship to experience love. Love is everywhere around us and gets multiplied when we give it graciously: without holding back.

What we receive from others is a mirror of our relationship to our own hearts and bodies.

Our energy enters the room before we even start talking.

In order to attract a high-value partner, you must embody the qualities of this high-value partner yourself.


When we bring love with us, wherever we go, love follows us in return.

~ Love is our divine birth right, and there is plenty of love for all of us.

With love and care,

Ana-Maria

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How To Burn Fat By Resting

How To Burn Fat By Resting

Let’s talk about how to relax.

Why is this important? Among other fantastic benefits — when you are relaxed, you burn more fat.

When you’re stressed, you might do the opposite and hold the stubborn weight that doesn’t want to go away. According to case studies, when there is too much cortisol in our bodies (due to physiological or environmental stress), it often triggers fat accumulation.
While eating foods that are high in fiber, protein, and slow-releasing carbs can naturally increase our bodies’ ability to burn more fat, we can help the process significantly by merely slowing down.
When moving through life too fast, without taking enough breaks, we inevitably eat fast, which triggers a cortisol response, and diminishes our calorie-burning power.

Slowing down moves us from the fight-or-flight stress-state to the peaceful state of relaxation and inner calm.

Just by allowing yourself to relax more, you are likely to increase your metabolism and reach your fitness goals in a much more enjoyable way! 🙏🏼

Now it`s the perfect time to download my guide on chewing slowly: click here.

Not only that: the slower we eat, the faster we metabolize our food and the more sustained energy we have throughout the day.

The shortcut to turn off stress and activate a physiological relaxation response is conscious breathing. Conscious breathing simply means taking full deep breaths and holding them in for four counts before your exhale. Your nervous system will begin to calm down immediately.

You literally just have to breathe more deeply to switch on the parasympathetic nervous system. We have oxygen available to us 24/7, and it’s always available to use (thankfully!)

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Here is an easy exercise you can try:

✔️ Write your top 3 stressors.
✔️Now create your top 3 relaxers.
✔️Ensure eating slowly and are chewing your food.
✔️One busier days, take some time to stretch, do gentle yoga, go for a walk, meditate, or take an Epsom salt bath/long shower.
✔️Initiate regular intimacy with someone you connect to on a deeper level.

Quality intimacy is, by far, one of the best stress relievers!

Regardless of what you choose to do – when in doubt, just take a break to breathe and relax.

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Sometimes the most productive thing you can DO is to do nothing at all, and recharge your batteries

What’s your take on this topic? Let me know!

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~ I am here for you if you have questions or comments,

Ana-Maria

How To Use Non-Violent Communication To Strenghten Your Communication Skills

How To Use Non-Violent Communication To Strenghten Your Communication Skills

The term “nonviolent communication” is best known as a method of communication created and synthesized by the late psychologist Marshall Rosenberg.

In his The 4-Part NVC Proces, Rosenberg established four steps that could guide us to express our emotions clearly and without blaming or criticizing, and to empathetically receive what other people are conveying to us – without hearing blame or criticism

Relationships are hard but also essential for our growth. Anthony Giddins, a pioneer of the study of sociology, argued that being left in isolation is one of the most forceful punishments. 

Human interaction is essential for our well-being. However, just because we are articulating our thoughts verbally doesn’t mean we are communicating with each other effectively. The 4-step method created by Rosenberg gives us the tools to do that. In this article, I am breaking down the concept of non-violent communication and guiding you how to execute it in your own relationships.

1. Observe and recap

  • recapping what someone has said, without emotional input
  • not attaching any judgment or “story” to your response

i.e., ”I hear you say…” instead of “You just said…”.

2. Describe emotions, not opinions

  • talk feelings, not issues.
  • don`t state your opinions as facts
  • stay open for the other person`s point of view

i.e., expressing what are you feeling without translating your emotions into blame. For example: “I am feeling a bit neglected right now. Let`s work it out,” as opposed to “I am sick of you not finding time for this relationship. It`s over.”

3. Identify needs

Rosenberg found that human needs universally fall into one of a handful of categories, including connection, honesty, peace, play, physical well-being, a sense of meaning, and autonomy.

  • take a moment to identify what you need as opposed to what are you feeling alone

i.e., you might feel neglected, but if you dig deeper you may find that your unmet need is about connection and quality time with your partner. If you are the recipient of your partner`s unmet needs, on the other hand, commit to listening first instead of reacting impulsively and feeling blamed.

4. Make a request

  • clearly requesting that which would meet your spoken needs without demanding or nagging
  • empathetically receiving a request without being judgemental or unwilling to take it into consideration

i.e. “Would you be willing to create more time for intimacy?”- on the requesting end, and “I am setting the intention to create more conscious time for intimacy” on the receiving end.

If you would like to read more on this topic, review the related articles under this link (or scroll down the feed)

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Accept and Let It Go: How To Use Less Control and Be At Peace

Accept and Let It Go: How To Use Less Control and Be At Peace

True acceptance means letting go. 


What does it mean to let go of attachments? It means to accept what you cannot change and be at peace with the outcome: regardless if it is what you thought you wanted.

Life is an intricate balance of a constant push&pull. When we don’t resist the flow of the Universe, we flow effortlessly with its messages.

What we resist, however, always persists. We attract the same people and situations when we stay confined in the limitations of our mental conditioning. 

If you don’t make the conscious decision to change your reaction to events, you remain enslaved to outside influence. WHEN WE LEARN HOW TO WITNESS CHALLENGES WITH STILLNESS, PEACE, AND EMOTIONAL NEUTRALITY, WE EVENTUALLY LEARN THE LESSON AND GROW FROM OUR MISTAKES.

The practice of acceptance and letting go means we stop waiting on other people to “complete” us, make us feel loved, seen, wanted, appreciated, and recognized for our accomplishments. 

No one can complete us if we don’t already feel whole and complete in ourselves. If you don’t think you’re worthy of love, success, and happiness, life will confirm these beliefs.

Loving yourself is far different from being prideful or self-conceited. The practice of conscious self-love means you accept your imperfections and feel comfortable in your skin without searching for outside approval. 

We only have one” now” to love, accept, and appreciate ourselves. We either seize it, or we miss another day to shine and thrive.

It isn’t our responsibility to monitor other people’s perception of us but is our responsibility to project clearly our boundaries and self-respect. 

When we take a step forward toward valuing ourselves more, our relationships begin to shift and transform towards mutual trust, respect, and acceptance. 

How do you practice letting go? Let me know!



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How To Communicate Effectively: In Interpersonal Relationships

How To Communicate Effectively: In Interpersonal Relationships

The most common reason for misunderstandings and conflict in intimate relationships is the presence of persistent withdrawal and the lack of consistent communication between partners.

When you feel upset, do you tend to close off instead of speaking up?

Please remember than shutting down (or stuffing in our emotions) doesn’t solve the causation of the problem; it only exacerbates it further.

Clear, non-violent, communication that delivers our emotions directly but also compassionately is key to resolving any conflict.

Speaking your needs in a relationship is not being needy; it is being emotionally mature. If you constantly run from your emotions in order to be perceived as ”drama-free,” eventually you will explode uncontrollably.

That said, expressing our emotions doesn’t have to come across as egocentric or self-centered either! There is a happy medium between emotional escapism and emotional explosion and is called effective communication

This is the kind of communication where we honor our truth and are also respectful and considerate of the other person’s point of view. It is much harder to stay present and hold space for the other person than shutting down and avoiding the conversation. But is the only way to avoid ambuiguity, confusion and passive aggresiveness.

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  • Maintaining healthy boundaries in our interactions with the world doesn’t involve building walls. 
  • Maintaining healthy boundaries involves building trust. Trust in our unique needs, desires and worthiness of unedited self-expression.
  • It isn’t our responsibility to teach others how to communicate effectively but is our responsibility to project clearly our own values, needs and opinions.

To more you speak up (with kindness and compassion!), the less you will shut down emotionally when you feel misunderstood or unappreciated.

When we take a step forward toward valuing our truth, our relationships begin to shift and transform towards reciprocated respect, trust and effective communication.

~ With love and care,
Ana-Maria

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3 Proven Hooks For Creating New – Lasting- Healthy Habits

3 Proven Hooks For Creating New – Lasting- Healthy Habits

What You Need To Know To Build Healthy Habits That Stick

I get asked a lot what are my best tips for creating healthy habits. I call them the three juicy CCC: carecourage, and consistency


1. CARE 

Before even attempting to change your current lifestyle, you first have to know why do you want to do it. Does your goal to, let’s say, lose a few pounds feeds your ego, or does it support your mental and emotional wellness?

Need more guidance how to connect to your deep Why? read here.


Your choice to prioritize self-care should stem from your heart. Whatever your goal is, ask yourself: ”Why do I care so much to make this change?; ”What is my ”why”?”; ”How does my decision to change my lifestyle will benefit my well-being?”

2. COURAGE


Once you are set on your goal, you must practice bravery and courage. It isn’t easy to change old habits that have been solidly ingrained in your behavior for years. Most likely, your brain would try to ”protect” you from changing by tempting you to sabotage your progress.

Need more guidance how to reverse self-sabatoge? Check out this article.

Being courageous doesn’t mean we don’t stumble or that we don’t fall! It means we dare to be vulnerable and stand back again. Progress is never linear, and neither is courage. For that reason, you should care actively for your goal to keep your spirits high when things don’t go as smooth as you’d envisioned. And to keep your eye on your Why.

3. CONSISTENCY 

Once you prioritize self-care and dare to be courageous, the next step is to be consistent with your work. Please know that in six months you won’t remember the tough times when you’re close to giving up. You will only remember your courage to keep up with your self-care. By this point, you would have developed new habits and resolved limiting beliefs and constructive tendencies.


Changing is tough, but so worth it! I believe in You! 💜

How to know if you are ready for a change? Read this article.

~ Ana-Maria

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