Are You An Active Listener?

Are You An Active Listener?

Deep Listening is the key to having a profound understanding of your correspondant and their deepest truths, challenges, pains, and aspirations.

Very often, it is not what people say to us but they way they say it: their intonation, body language and emotional presence.

When you are able to deeply listen, your own “monkey mind” goes quiet. Your own thoughts fade away. You just hear and absorb what the person is saying.

Why is the skill of being an active listener so important to your relationships? Because this way the person you are communicating with feels heard , and being heard is the experience of being acknowledged, respected, and accepted.

When you listen actively to what the other person is saying you are able to understand what they are telling you without referring to your own experience or bias.

Remember, it is about their experience, and not yours. More often than not, the people we are talking to desire to share what’s going on with them, without necessarily looking for advice.

Sharing is Caring.

Here are two exercises that teaches you how to practice listening without the desire to affect or respond to what the other person has to say – JUST LISTENING.

EXERCISE 1: MIRROR LISTENING

Mirror Listening is a technique to help you stay focused and “tuned in” when listening to other people. When you do mirror listening, you’ll be able to be present in the moment and tune out the distractions around you, as well as the distracting thoughts and feelings within.

Instructions

To get started with mirror listening, start by choosing a youtube video or a talk radio show program.

(1) Choose one person’s voice and start whispering the speaker’s words at the same time the speaker says them. (So that you are mirroring, not repeating after them.) Mirror everything they say, word-for-word.

(2) After you get the first part down, try leaving out the sound. Just move your mouth, mirroring the words at the same time they are being said.

(3) Finally, mirror the words in your mind only. You’ll hear in your mind how your thoughts mirror what is being said, word-for-word, without spoken sound or physical movement.

Give this exercise some time, as it will take practice and effort.

One last thing – after you practice the exercise above, try mirror listening with an actual person with whom you are having a conversation. Notice how the experience is different.

Here’s a practical way to use this exercise in the “real world.” When you are talking with someone and your mind starts to wander off or get distracted, try mirror listening for 20 or 30 seconds, and watch how you tune right back to the speaker.

EXERCISE 2: DYAD LISTENING

Dyads are structured listening exercises between people working in pairs. Dyads are an exceptionally deep and safe method of communication that fosters trust, honesty, and connection between people. This is largely due to the strength of the listening role. The basic premise of dyad work is that communication between any two people can be incredibly powerful and healing, and can be used for transformational purposes.

During a dyad, the person listening is attentive to what their partner is communicating while remaining almost completely silent. The listener does not respond or react to what their partner says, either through comments or non-verbal cues such as smiling or nodding.

Instructions:

Sit down with a partner at a comfortable distance apart, facing each other. You can sit on chairs or sit on cushions on the floor. The partners should be at the same height though. Sit with your back straight and with your head balanced above your spine. Keep your body relaxed and your breathing free and easy.

Listening partner’s role:

  • ·  Keep attention on the speaking partner
  • ·  Listen to what the other says
  • ·  Don’t interrupt the other
  • ·  Make no critical judgments of the other
  • · Don`t make assumptions, just listen
  • · Abstain from giving unsolicited advice
  • · Remember that it is not about you, but about them
  • · Even if you are not sure what to say, be emotionally present

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Self-Love Practices

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Love, scientifically speaking, is not more than an illusion created by a mix of chemicals and hormones that produce the fuzzy feeling we feel in our heart for another person.

Yet, philosophically speaking, there is more to love than the “feeling” we associate with its presence or lack.

Love is a choice. Love is a daily commitment to validating that choice with our actions. Love doesn’t fade, even when the sexual attraction begins to subside. Love is caring and always present, even when we hurt, or experience pain. Love is omnipresent. It exists in and for all of us. Love is our state of consciousness and is our responsibility to access and spread it generously to those we encounter.

 

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Cauliflower-Chia Pudding

Cauliflower-Chia Pudding

This recipe is delicious, easy to digest, and packed with goodness.

Also, very very easy to make!

Ingredients

  • 4 tbs chia seeds
  • 1/2 package of riced cauliflower
  • 1 cup unsweetened coconut milk/tea/kombucha/or just water
  • 1 scoop protein powder
  • 2 tbs chopped walnuts/or pecans
  • 1 tbs pumpkin seeds
  • 1 tbs raw almond butter
  • Dash of cinnamon, cumin and turmeric (you may want to add a pinch of black pepper to enhance absorption)
  • 1 ts cacao powder (optional)
  • 1 small apple or pear (chopped)
  • 1/2 cup of fresh blueberries/or raspberries
  • 1 ts of green powder (if you want to sneak in more greens)
  • 1 chopped zucchini

Instructions:

  • Soak the chia seeds in your liquid of choice for about 20-30 min.
  • Add the rest of the ingredients and mix well.
  • Enjoy!!=)

Told you it is THAT easy.:)

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Easy Plant-Based Dips To Make At Home

Easy Plant-Based Dips To Make At Home

These dips are easy to make, rich in fiber and also high in protein.

Black Bean Dip

Ingredients

  • 2 cans of organic black beans
  • Handful of fresh cilantro
  • 1/4 cup cherry tomatoes
  • 1 ts apple cider vinegar
  • 1 ts liquid aminos/tamari sause/sea salt
  • Mint leaves
  • 1 ts of avocado oil
  • Dash of black pepper, cumin and turmeric

Instructions

1). Rinse the beans in water

2) Blend the ingredients and store in your fridge.

3) Dip with baby carrots, chopped zucchini or gluten-free crackers.

Pea Dip

Ingredients

  • 4 cups of frozen sweet peas (leave them in your fridge to melt first)
  • 1/4 cup of hemp seeds
  • 4 tbs of apple cider vinegar
  • 1 tbs mustard
  • 1 tbs tahini
  • 1 ts sea salt
  • 4 tbs nutritional yeast

Blend together and enjoy.

Spicy Carrot Dip

Ingredients

  • 1 p. baby carrots
  • 1 small zucchini
  • 1 ts chilli flakes/cayenne pepper
  • 1/2 walnuts/or cashews (soak them first in water)
  • 1 tbs flax seed
  • 1/2 cup almond milk/water
  • Dash of cumin and ginger

Blend together and enjoy.

Raspberry Tofu Yogurt*

  • This recipe tastes like frozen yogurt (for reals!!) and is completely dairy-free!

Ingredients

  • 1 block of silken tofu
  • 1 p. frozen raspberries
  • 4 medjol dates
  • 1/2 cup unsweetened coconut milk
  • 1 ts. flax seed (as a binder)
  • Vanilla extract
  • 1 tbs collagen powder (Optional!)

Blend together and place in your fridge,

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29 Lessons I Learned In 29 Years

29 Lessons I Learned In 29 Years

29 lessons in 29 years

1. It is not always comfortable to be a nonconformist. And not everyone is supposed to understand or agree with you.

2. Loving yourself is a daily practice that begins with acceptance of everything that you are.

3. Saying “no” to requests is just as important as saying “yes” to your priorities.

4. Feeling vibrant and abundant is a choice we make every single day when we wake up.

5. Forgiveness is the conscious act of releasing the burden of carrying someone else’s mistakes.

6. Confidence derives from feeling attuned to your self-worth: with all of your flaws and imperfections.

7. All projections of our ego serve to teach us how to tame our judgment and be more compassionate with each other.

8. No one can love us the way we deserve to be loved if we don’t allow for this love to merge with our self-love.

9. If we always play “safe” because of the risk of getting hurt, we miss out on the opportunity to seize the moments when our breath gets taken away. 

10. If we base our self-esteem on someone else’s validation, we deprive ourselves of our own approval.

11. Perfectionism is unforgiving, and it prays on our insecurities.

12. The root of most of our sorrows is the self-induced belief of not being enough. 

13. Regardless of one’s upbringing or past mistakes, at the core of our being, we were born enough.

14. Proper nourishment is a form of self-respect. The body is our friend, and it deserves care and attention.

15. The abyss of our fear can only be entered with the courage to follow this fear. 

16. If we hide from our truth, no one would be able to see us as well.

17. Sharing is a form of caring: there will always be someone benefiting from our gifts and passions.

18. When we are hungry for knowledge, our mind feeds itself on discovery and inquisitiveness.

19. I wish I knew all of this when I was nineteen. 🙂

20. If we have a solid vision of what we want, we will get there even if it takes us a couple of years.

21. Our physical attributes are meaningless unless we like ourselves, even if there is no one else to praise us.

22. Our body has innate intelligence whose voice gets muted unless we learn how to “listen” to its cues. 

23. Being an eloquent communicator is derived from mastering the skills of empathy.

24. Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable and honest bridges our heart the hearts of our audience.

25. Movement and rhythm are the tools our soul uses to express herself physically.

26. The key to emotional intelligence is honoring one’s emotions without being manipulated by them.

27. Having a purpose is not the same as having hobbies. Having hobbies adds joy to our lives. Having a purpose embodies the joy.

28. There is nothing more rewarding in this world than feeling and sharing unconditional love that doesn’t involve attachments.

29. Being a conscious human being is the first step to spreading the light that lives in all of us.

Are You Losing Focus?

Are You Losing Focus?

Remember the time you went to the pharmacy to buy bandages, and you spent 15 minutes wondering which kind to choose?

Correct. The irony is that too many options tend to leave us scattered and prone to underestimating the value of choosing ONE thing at the time and excelling at it, without getting deteriorated from our most important tasks.

If you find it difficult to stay focused on ONE thing at the time, don’t worry. I got you covered!

The  fear-of-missing-out (FOMO) is triggered by the lack of personal boundaries: to prioritize our main goals even if that means saying “no” to less important tasks or hobbies.

As Steve Jobs said, Innovation is saying no to 1,000 things.

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That means honoring our non-negotiable priorities.
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Honoring our non-negotiable priorities requires focus.

Having laser focus requires discipline.

First, allow me to say— I wasn’t born disciplined. I have always been swayed by multiple hobbies and interests:

I love dancing, I love traveling, I love art, I love photography, I love reading, I love writing, I love yoga, I love meeting new people.
However, my main focus, at the moment, is my coaching work. Why?! Because it’s humanitarian and it helps people to feel better.

Having hobbies is not the same as having a life purpose.

How did I say “no” to my other hobbies without feeling as if I was missing out?

By honoring my committed “YES” to coaching clients as my ONE primary focus.

We all have 24 h in a day. The key to being more disciplined is to being clear on what needs to be done FIRST before anything else. This means that, sometimes, we have to turn down requests and miss other fun activities. Remember, there is always be something else that seems appealing or more exciting to do than our current tasks. It is always our own choice how to spend out time.

It’s a perk and a peril to live in a society where there is an overflowing stream of options: from leisure to Netflix, to dining out and even dating. When we have too many options we often find it difficult to stay committed to one main thing.

Download the one-thing-check-list to get started.

Try the techniques in this exercise for at least five days and if you still need help to stay on track with your prioritize – schedule a consultation with me.