Accept and Let It Go: How To Use Less Control and Be At Peace

Accept and Let It Go: How To Use Less Control and Be At Peace

True acceptance means letting go. 


What does it mean to let go of attachments? It means to accept what you cannot change and be at peace with the outcome: regardless if it is what you thought you wanted.

Life is an intricate balance of a constant push&pull. When we don’t resist the flow of the Universe, we flow effortlessly with its messages.

What we resist, however, always persists. We attract the same people and situations when we stay confined in the limitations of our mental conditioning. 

If you don’t make the conscious decision to change your reaction to events, you remain enslaved to outside influence. WHEN WE LEARN HOW TO WITNESS CHALLENGES WITH STILLNESS, PEACE, AND EMOTIONAL NEUTRALITY, WE EVENTUALLY LEARN THE LESSON AND GROW FROM OUR MISTAKES.

The practice of acceptance and letting go means we stop waiting on other people to “complete” us, make us feel loved, seen, wanted, appreciated, and recognized for our accomplishments. 

No one can complete us if we don’t already feel whole and complete in ourselves. If you don’t think you’re worthy of love, success, and happiness, life will confirm these beliefs.

Loving yourself is far different from being prideful or self-conceited. The practice of conscious self-love means you accept your imperfections and feel comfortable in your skin without searching for outside approval. 

We only have one” now” to love, accept, and appreciate ourselves. We either seize it, or we miss another day to shine and thrive.

It isn’t our responsibility to monitor other people’s perception of us but is our responsibility to project clearly our boundaries and self-respect. 

When we take a step forward toward valuing ourselves more, our relationships begin to shift and transform towards mutual trust, respect, and acceptance. 

How do you practice letting go? Let me know!



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Let Go Of Control By Slowing Down

Let Go Of Control By Slowing Down


We live in a society that is obsessed with control: from controlling one’s finances to controlling one’s physique, relationships and even one’ body’s physiological needs for rest.

 
Yet, too much control leads to chronic exhaustion, anxiousness, and the subsequent jarring fear-of-missing-out*. 

*The fear of missing out is defined by “a desire to stay continually connected with what others are doing.” 

The simple truth is we, human beings, are not supposed to control everything that happens around us or to be everywhere&and do everything AT THE SAME TIME.


Slowing down usually helps us gain momentum in the long-term. Taking charge of your life and making things happen should not come on the expense of your sanity or your sleep.


The best remedy for control-addiction is REST.

How often do you pause to breathe and let go of control?

I, myself, often get caught up in a go-go-go way of living. And I now know better that slowing down helps me be way more productive. Speaking of which, check out this article. 🙂

When you feel fatigued and overwhelmed, simply close your eyes and send your body much neeeded love and appreciation.

By inhaling love, we let go of the fear of not doing or being enough. By letting go of this fear, we instill the values of self-respect and self-nurturment.

~ After reading this post, please pause and do the following: close your eyes, take a few deep breathes, and connect to yourself by connecting to your heart.

Ask yourself: “What do I want today; What do I need from life; How can I support myself today; How can I say “yes” to others by not compromising my needs?”; How can I say “no” with no guilt?; “How can I enjoy myself more by loosening up my control?””

By nurturing ourselves, we nurture others!

~ With love and care,

Ana-Maria

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Letting Go Of Control: Tips For Easier Surrender And Releasing The Past

Letting Go Of Control: Tips For Easier Surrender And Releasing The Past

The secret of happiness is knowing that there are some things you can control and some things you cannot.” – Epictetus

Letting go of what is outside our control doesn’t equate apathy or ignorance. Feeling our emotions in their raw tantrum is the only way to, later on, release the avalanche of regret, doubt, fear, rejection, betrayal, and loneliness. Letting go of accusations, victimization, and self-pity doesn’t mean we ignore our emotions. It means we are not being manipulated by the illusion of being purposely wronged or mistreated. As the saying goes, Life doesnt happen to you, it happens for you. All wounds are teachers. And the best ones.

But sometimes we forget that with our thoughts we attract everything that happens to us. And instead get trapped in a perpetual and draining self-induced feeling of separation, martyrdom, and injustice. We start blaming the situation instead of looking within to find what we must change to stop creating the same reality over and over again: of feeling

unworthy/betrayed/wronged/cheated/unappreciated/dissatisfied/jealous/envious/unattractive/ unlovable/unsuccessful/etc.

  You probably feel a sense of repulsion just from reading the listed qualifiers, due to their negative vibrational frequency. Yet, sometimes we subconsciously repeat them to ourselves – every time when Life sends us a challenge or tests our reaction to events that are outside of our control. No wonder we keep repeating the same patterns of behavior that “prove” our limitations to be true instead of consciously releasing those limiting beliefs from our cellular memory. Most of us want a thriving relationship, loving family environment, a fulfilling career and on overall prosperity. However, we most likely will continuously struggle to create our best life (and keep the affluence flowing) if there is a hidden blockage in our subconscious mind that doesn’t allow us to believe that we are capable and deserving of happiness, success and unconditional love.

Knowing that we are always protected by our higher self, and our higher purpose in this life is not the same as actually believing it. Belief requires surrender and a conscious release from subconscious blockages that trigger the doubts and fears we experience when life events and people don’t meet our expectations. Yet, it`s never them that fail us. What we choose to believe is what manifests for us. Believing that everything and everyone enters our life at the perfect time and place saves us a lot of worrying for the things and people who exit it, or come to us in a later time and phase of our growth.

Knowing that you are not in control of other people but are in control of your own mind and emotional body will forever liberate you from the chains of attachment to the past.

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Silently repeat to yourself and embrace your physical body with a loving hug: as if you were your own best friend/lover.

 

The Practice

Whatever that has happened or is happening to you is a result of the past. And even if you can`t change it, you can change how you see it (and how you see yourself). I lovingly ask you to start this practice today and do it every day for the next twenty-one days.

Now please take your journal and begin writing down all of the affirmations I wrote down for you, as you can add your own and adapt them to your own language. Please note that is very important to say them in present tense and to keep them action-oriented.

Afterwards, please free-write about the emotions this practice is about to invoke in you and close the practice with the mantra: “I choose to allow those affirmations to work for me and to guide me towards happiness and self-acceptance.

The Affirmations

“Today, I lovingly release the pattern in me that…*”

(*for example: the pattern in me that doesn’t allow to be loved/the pattern in me that attracts toxic partners/ the pattern in me that is afraid of success/the pattern in me that repeats the behavior of my parents/the pattern in me that procrastinates/the pattern in me that attracts scarcity/the pattern in me that is always late/unmotivated/jealous…etc.)

“Today, I accept myself as I am.”

“Today, I move forward and let go of the past.”

“Today, I choose to change and forgive myself and others”

“Today, I lovingly release all negative feelings from my mind and body.”

“Today, I choose to feel better about myself and everything that happens to me.”

“Today, I release all limiting beliefs that hinder my happiness.”

“Today, I choose to feel complete, whole and guided.”

“Today, I choose to treat everybody with compassion and kindness, including myself.”

“Today, I choose to speak up and express my needs with love”

“Today, I choose to be liberated from any blockages or fears that hold me back.”

“Today, I choose to be calm and feel supported in everything that happens.”

“Today, I invite love to find me, and I stop looking for it elsewhere. It is already in me.”

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If you would like to inquire more about this practice and learn how to create your own affirmations depending on a life event/or trait you want to work on, please send me an email.

 

With Love and Care,

Ana-Maria

p.s I hope you found this article inspiring. Please share it to someone you know who might benefit from this practice. 

 

 

 

 

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