Not feeling enough tends to produce lower self-esteem.
Not feeling enough often results in disordered body image
Not feeling enough corresponds to the tendency of seeking constant validation and approval from others
Not feeling enough robs us of our will power to claim our worth and set our standards.
Not feeling enough is a disempowering mindset that creeps in everything we think, do, and experience as a result of our beliefs. In order to reverse it, we must trace the root of its cause and reframe our relationship to events from our past that have impacted us negatively.
Do you agree?
If we don’t believe we are worthy of happiness, no external validation/accomplishment/or material possessions will prove to us that we are.
The proof is in the pudding, they say. And we are the chefs of our mental cuisine.
The way we think about ourselves shows up in what we receive from others. When we build an unshakeable confidence that is based on our instrinsic qualities and self-respect, our confidence sets the example for how we deserve to be treated.
When we decide that we are worthy of respect and love regardless of our age, physical looks or material acquasations — our self-esteem begins to bloom and transform. And with it, our beliefs that we are -after all – E N O U G H.
Are you desperate to find a partner? This might be part of the reason you are still single. When we are feeling desperate, we repel love. When we feel whole and complete, we attract love effortlessly because we feel worthy and deserving of being loved.
Have you ever wondered if you can find the perfect partner for yourself? Have you ever been disappointed and left wondering if “good” men actually exist? Have you ever given your entire attention and devotion to someone who doesn`t reciprocate your affection and loyalty the way you deserve? Have you ever felt as if there is something “wrong” with you for not being able to attract a high-value man who reciprocates your love and affection?
The missing puzzle you have been looking for is called self-love. Nobody can love us the way we deserve if we don`t love and accept ourselves first.
Love comes from ourselves first. No one can love you unconditionally if you don’t love and accept yourself first. Self-respect is key.
Life is too short to fear being in love. Our heart wants what it wants: to give and receive love effortlessly.
And we don’t have to be in a romantic relationship to experience love. Love is everywhere around us and gets multiplied when we give it graciously: without holding back.
What we receive from others is a mirror of our relationship to our own hearts and bodies.
Our energy enters the room before we even start talking.
In order to attract a high-value man, you must embody the qualities of a high-value woman. Trust me when I say that YOU ARE a high-value woman. Even if you`ve been hurt or mistreated before you are worthy of receiving the respect and love you deserve.
When we bring love with us, wherever we go, love follows us in return.
~ Love is our divine birth right, and there is plenty of love for all of us.
If you are surrounded by people who bring you down, you’re very likely to succumb to their negativity. But that shouldn’t be the case!
1) Accept that you’re not responsible for other people’s behavior.
But you’re responsible for your reaction to what happens around you. Forgiving injustice doesn’t mean you condone it. It means you choose to protect and honor your sanity. You forgive in order to set yourself free from grudges! Forgiveness is an act of self-care.
2) Accept that suffering often drives progress.
Think about it: if your job makes you miserable, your relationships don’t fulfill you, or your body doesn’t deal happy and healthy — that in itself is a baddass motivation for moving on and changing your life! If it is unbearable to remain stuck in unhappy life, it becomes bearable to face your fears, seek help, and move on.
3) Accept that reward is on the other side of sacrifice.
What happens after a sweaty exercise that kicked your butt a hundred times in a row? You brush off the sweat and feel amazing! The endorphins kick in and you forget about how hard the workout seemed in the beginning. Now you’ve entered the joyous state of victory and self-accomplishment.
Yes, hard work is hard. Change is hard. But it pays off!
Ask yourself: do you prefer to pay the price of stress and misery or do you prefer to pay the cost of changing your mindset, and to improve the quality of your relationship to yourself and others?
Have you found yourself stuck in an area of your life that you want to change, but don`t know how? Read these tips!
Sometimes we want big results fast and we imagine that means pushing ourselves as far and fast as we can go. But we often set ourselves up for failure that way. Slow and steady, consistent follow-through is what gets results that create true lasting transformation. If you want to create a long-lasting change, you really have to learn how to be patient with the process.:)
STEP #1 of 5: Step Back
Stepping Back is about moving from being “in” a situation to an “observer” of a situation. The reason it’s essential to Step Back and get distance between you and your programming is that the distance opens up the opportunity to see a situation from a new perspective. Your programming is what you were given at a very early age to make decisions about yourself and the world. When you can see a situation from a new perspective, you are likely to create more choices and possibilities.
STEP #2 of 5: Let Go
At its core, transformation is a continual process of letting go. This step is all about giving you a way to release old beliefs and create new ones. Please check out my free tips on letting go here.
STEP #3 of 5: Say Yes to Self
This step is about anchoring in new beliefs that reflect your true self now. Once we’ve let go of the dysfunctional beliefs that no longer serve us, we get to choose what we want to believe and who we want to be. Not sure how to execute this step? Check out this article.🙂
STEP #4 of 5: Take Empowered Action
When you feel completely grounded in yourself and your truth, you are in the perfect place to take empowered action. Why is “empowered action” specifically important? If you’re taking action from a place of fear, “not enough-ness”, doubt, confusion, or worry, then you aren’t coming from an empowered place. Here are some tools how to combat your fear.
STEP #5 of 5: Set Up Accountability (Support AND Stretch)
Once you are commited to changing your life, then you want to set up the type of accountability that makes success inevitable, which means you must have support and you must have stretch. What are the conditions that set you up for inevitable success? One way is to surround yourself with people who have the belief systems and outcomes that you want to have.
Need more accountability in your life? I am here to support and guide you.:)
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Do you want to transform your self-talk, build unstoppable confidence and emanate radiant energy that lights up the room?
You are in the right space!
My goal is to help you to attain it by teaching you how to release old blockages, guiding you to improve your self-talk and coaching you to develop new empowering habits that are designed to gradually replace the old sabotaging beliefs you may have around your body, your love life and your career.
The “Uncover Your Confidence” 90-day-Intensive program is the right fit for you if you know you want to:
Build intuition and self-awareness how recognize the limiting beliefs you may carry around your body, food, intimate relationships, and the way you live your life.
Learn to recognize self-sabotaging beliefs and replace confidence-damaging habits with confidence-building habits.
Adopt empowering techniques for managing negative patterns and stepping into your power to change and feel confident in your skin.
Attain a new baseline where you begin to create life-changing (and sustainable!) physical, and emotional transformation.
By enrolling in this 90-day program, you will receive:
On-going support from me via texts, emails, and a scheduled weekly check-in
New meditation recording each week that helps de-stress your mind and guides you to instill more self-awaraness and self-value
Customized affirmations that assist you to visualize your progress and connect to yourselfon a deeper level
On-going guidance on what foods to eat to support radiant energy and youthfullness
A confidence-boosting dance-fitness routine (*) you can do at home streamed at a convenient time for your schedule , tailored to your fitness level 🙂
Upon completion, you will achieve four major outcomes:
• Learn what thoughts and behaviors hold you back and how to reverse them • Set up the conditions for inevitable success and self-accountability • Find out which foods give your vibrant energy and support your inner confidence with outer youthfulness and glow • Convert the confidence-building habits and routines, you have learned into ingrained behaviors that last
I am so passionate about empowering women to transform their self-talk and build more confidence because I know how it feels to continually sabotage yourself, to feel disconnected from your body, and to avoid your reflection in the mirror – affirming that you are not “enough” and will never be loved for who you are. What a disempowering way to view yourself! But it was the Universe`s way to teach me what I know so that I could rebuild my confidence from zero to a hundreed. And you can do it, too!
Once I hit a low bottom of anxiety and low self-esteem in my early twenties, I finally realized that it is time for me to commit to moving forward from my past. During this process of trying different techniques and becoming a licensed coach (accredited by the Health Coach Institute), I learned how to love and accept my body, the way it is, by practicing mindful eating and self-love, walking with more confidence (with straight back, my shoulders back and my heart open to the world…), and feeling connected to my feminine power and inner beauty.
My clients and I are the living proof of the unlimited potential we all carry to uncover our unstoppable confidence and empowerment. It is never too early or too late to prioritize yourself!
I have been more than thrilled about my experience with Ana-Maria! I am really impressed with her customized and agile approach to wellness and life-coaching. The progress that I accomplished in the first two months of collaborating with her is phenomenal, both physically and emotionally. The results came so fast and are so tangible that my motivation to get to the best version of myself is growing by the hour. I didn`t realize how much I already knew about wellness until I started working with Ana-Maria. However, she has been the driving force behind guiding me, keeping me organized and showing me ways of applying the knowledge I already have and the new knowledge that I am acquiring through her. I can`t wait to see how far she will help me to get in my journey of discovering my true self and being the best version of myself that I could ever be!
Thank you from the bottom of my heart, Ana-Maria!
I love working with A-M, getting weekly assignments and experimenting with different foods and seeing what works for my body. I also like that`s is not a race and not a competition. It`s totally working. Everyone is commenting on how good I look. I feel so great. My skin is glowing…I feel happy, energized and confident. I eat anti-inflammatory and anti-aging foods, and I feel and I look younger. I feel so much better about my self-esteem. It is very important to work with a coach because you keep yourself accountable…learning how to eat, what to eat, and implanting positive seeds in your brain. I highly recommend it to everybody! It`s the perfect package: getting all the information I need, the motivation, and the support. I absolutely recommend Ana-Maria to everybody! I am so glad she is in my life. It is PRICE-LESS. It`s the best investment you can do in your life. You are changing your habits forever. (Katie B.)
Change is hard. It is supposed to be hard. This is how our brain is wired. And our brain`s main responsibility is to keep us safe. From an evolutionary point of view (1), change equals danger; danger equals lack of safety; lack of safety equals predators; predators equal potential death. No wonder lasting change is trickier than it seems.
I hope this is an AHA moment for you: our brain doesn’t differentiate between actual and fictional danger. For the critter brain, every time when you try to make a change (despite your positive intention behind it!), your innocent attempt triggers a fight or flight reaction. Why? Because your brain cares for you and wants you to be safe. Once you understand that your body`s only goal is to keep you alive, you begin to shift your mindset from reactivity to positivity. To make any change STICK, you have to win your brain over first. And do it in a way that makes both you and your brain FEEl good.
So, instead of beating yourself for not sticking to your new year`s resolutions or your last week`decision to adopt a healthier diet, exercise more, stress less/etc., understand that it literally takes time for the body to drop its defenses and become an ally to your goals, and not a foe.
In order to shift gears towards your goal, you have to act as the architect of your most ideal future and not a slave of your behavioral patterns.
To receive a level of self-actualization (your innate ability and right to reach your highest creativity potential), you have to first strip the layers of cognitive baggage piled in your subconscious mind.
In order to shift from the role of spectator (ofWhat happens To you) to a creator (of a Life that happens FOR you), you must stop sabotaging yourself with negative self-talk and victimization. This is KEY!
These are my three fundamental strategies for creating long-lasting change instead of temporary breakthroughs:
I HAVE AN INTENTION
Decide what you want; then break it down to an attainable goal. I recommend you to breakdown your goals into a longterm goal and short-term goals. Be realistic what you can and can`t achieve in a six or three months frame, and focus on the progress you make, and not on the areas you`re still working on. The bigger the change you want to make is, the smaller the daily changes should be. You can`t possibly outdo years of behavioral patterns in one month regardless of your discipline and motivation. The body has to trust you first and welcome the change, instead of fighting you on it.
“Neurons that fire together wire together.”
– Donald Hebb, a Canadian neuropsychologist known for his work in the field of associative learning.
II PAY ATTENTION
Stepping back and identifying what your self-defeating habits are is one of the first steps of the change process.
Be curious to monitor your actions (without judgment!): are they moving you towards your goal, or do they pull you away from it? Most importantly, monitor your self-talk: how many times in a day do you speak kindly to yourself as opposed to the times you lash out and say things you would never tell your best friend? (more about building unstoppable confidence you may read here). Be adaptive to change and the breaking of old habits. Often, it has taken you a lifetime to build them, so it takes time and patience to reformulate your routine around them. Habits are literally wired in your brain. And I will repeat this again, because it is so important:any lasting change begins in your mind first before it gets translated to your behavior and habits.
As Goethe wisely pointed out: “Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.”
III ALWAYS BELIEVE
Stay optimistically realistic. Momentary set-backs are inevitable. Giving up is optional. Believing in your deservedness of happiness, confidence and self-love is the only way to preserve your enthusiasm to keep going when you stumble through obstacles. They’re there to test your will. And expose you to your fears so you can dissolve them and move forward. Face them, love them, and keep going. At its core, change is a continual process of letting go. This step is all about giving you a way to release old beliefs and create new ones. When you change a habit, you CHANGE a part of how you act, and when you change how you re-act, you start to change who you are in a triggering circumstance… when you begin to change who you are (when you don`t like yourself), you start to fall in love with your-true-self and your life.
In conclusion, please remember that habits are AUTOMATED behaviors and, as such, they are prone to change.. While some habits are health-promoting, others are health-destroying. And here we talk not just about physical health but about your mental and emotional health as well.
To make any change last, you need to feel good about it in your heart first.
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