Are You A People-Pleaser? Questions For Personal Reflection
If you are a chronic people-pleaser, you can easily get trapped in a vicious cycle of basing your self-worth on external approval.
Are you desperate to gain other people’s approval while neglecting your own needs?
Do you want to learn how to build unshakable confidence so you can say NO to peer pressure and YES to healthy boundaries and assertiveness in your TRUTH?
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🔅 Do you tend to alternate your behavior to match what you think is expected of you?
🔅 Do you often go out of your way for friends and family while having emotional and physical needs that often remain unmet?
🔅Do you often seek confirmation or external validation to feel better about your decisions?
🔅 Do you often succumb to peer pressure, or are too accommodating and agreeable to the point of feeling resentful and drained?
🔅Do you change your plans or goals if you don’t receive an immediate round of applause and gratification?
🔅Do you constantly worry about how others perceive you, even if their opinions don`t resonate with your core values or intuition?
Still unsure if you have subconscious people-pleasing patterns?
Here are 10 NOT so obvious signs:
1. You often talk yourself out of the things you want
2. You wait on other people’s permission to claim your desires
3. You often fear your decisions might disappoint someone, like your parents (even if you are not a child anymore)
4. You avoid asking yourself the tough-love question — “What If justify my fear because I am afraid of making a mistake and being judged for it.”
5. You often act as your friends’ parent; trying to take care of them even when they haven’t asked for it
6. You find it difficult to share openly how you feel and, instead, you shut down
7. You expect others to “guess” your needs and feel hurt when they don’t
8. You secretly resent your environment and judge yourself for wanting more things in life than what society expects you to want
9. You have lost a sense of your identity (very common for people who have spent their entire life in long-term relationships without taking the time to transition between relationships); can`t be alone; need others to complete you
10. You are afraid that if you change, someone would get hurt; or you would lose belonging to your family or friends; you will stand out and be vulnerable
Do you want to learn how to LOVE people without needing to “fix” them?
Do you want to be in inter-dependenting relationships that are based on mutual respect and authenticity?
Do you want to release yourself from the burden of carrying old paradigms that do not longer support your growth?