“Comparison Is the Thief of Joy”: How To Stop Comparing And Start Living

Ana-Maria Georgieva

2 years ago

Do you often put other people on a pedestal or feel inferior or envious of them?

We all have our personal moments of self-doubt and challenges.

The difference is IF you allow yourself to stay trapped in this limbo.

When people compare themselves to others, they usually do it from a place of uncertainty and self-doubt.

To prevent these feelings from causing you to feel inferior, you must check in with yourself and release the belief that there is an actual difference between the people we compare to and us.

Because there is not; our ego projects the illusion that we are not enough and that other people have it all figured out, that`s not true.

What there is, though, is a social construct that creates barriers and walls between people.

And this is why I promote the importance of building unshakable confidence.

In reality, at the offset of our biological lives, we were once all innocent babies.

Yet, each of us has a unique story, a unique path, and a unique set of life lessons for us to learn from before attaining our goals.

You don’t accidentally meet people who seem “better” or appear more “successful,” or as if they “have what we don’t.”

You negatively compare yourself to people who have what you want only when you feel incomplete or less confident in your unique abilities, physical appearance, and professional skills.

When you feel strongly confident in yourself, you stop obsessing (and taking it personally) about what other people are doing/or display to be doing.

Before comparing yourself to others, ask yourself:

“Why does this person or situation trigger me to feel bad about myself?”;

“Does comparing to them uplift me or does it bring me self-doubt?”

“Do I compare myself to others because I genuinely look up to them, or because deep down I doubt my equal worthiness of success?

The more you compare yourself to others, the more you remain stuck in the gloomy feeling of misery, unworthiness, and perpetual self-doubt.

The sooner you release the pattern of comparing yourself to others, the quicker you begin to adopt the new belief that there is an equal share of abundance, happiness, and success for all of us.

And that we all have access to it.

The only true competition is between Your Former Limitations and Your Quest For Liberation.

In order to become the person you want to be, you HAVE TO act as that person.

Does the person you want to become is envious and doubtful, or is she joyful, peaceful and feeling enough?

When you know that you are enough, you release the need to constantly seek validation outside of yourself; you stop comparing to people who have what you want...because you realize that you already possess the strength within yourself to create your own success and happiness.

~ Ana-Maria