Are you a chronic people pleaser? Are you desperate to gain other people’s approval while neglecting your own needs?
“Comparison Is the Thief of Joy”: How To Stop Comparing And Start Living
Do you often put other people on a pedestal or find yourself feeling inferior or envious of them?
We all have our personal moments of self-doubt and challenges.
The difference is IF you allow yourself to stay trapped in this limbo.
When people compare themselves to others, they usually do it from a place of uncertainty and self-doubt.
To prevent these feelings from causing you to feel inferior, you must check in with yourself and release the belief that there is an actual difference between the people we compare to and us.
Because there is not; our ego projects the illusion that we are not enough and that other people have it all figured out, that`s not true.
There Is Always Enough For All of Us.Tweet
What there is, though, is a social construct that creates barriers and walls between people.
And this is why I promote the importance of building unshakable confidence.
In reality, at the offset of our biological lives, we were once all innocent babies.
Yet, each of us has a unique story, a unique path, and a unique set of life lessons for us to learn from before attaining our goals.
You don’t accidentally meet people who seem “better” or appear more “successful,” or as if they “have what we don’t.”
You negatively compare yourself to people who have what you want only when you feel incomplete or less confident in your unique abilities, physical appearance, and professional skills.
When you feel strongly confident in yourself, you stop obsessing (and taking it personally) about what other people are doing/or display to be doing.
Before comparing yourself to others, ask yourself:
“Why does this person or situation trigger me to feel bad about myself?”;
“Does comparing to them uplift me or does it bring me self-doubt?”
“Do I compare myself to others because I genuinely look up to them, or because deep down I doubt my equal worthiness of success?@ Luna Voda Coaching
The more you compare yourself to others, the more you remain stuck in the gloomy feeling of misery, unworthiness, and perpetual self-doubt.
The sooner you release the pattern of comparing yourself to others, the quicker you begin to adopt the new belief that there is an equal share of abundance, happiness, and success for all of us.
And that we all have access to it.
The only true competition is between Your Former Limitations and Your Quest For Liberation.
The more genuine joy and admiration you feel for people who seem to have achieved more than you, the more the Universe is going to match your vibration of happiness and self-worth, and bring you exactly what you want to achieve.Tweet
In order to become the person you want to be, you HAVE TO act as that person.
Does the person you want to become is envious and doubtful, or is she joyful, peaceful and feeling enough?
When you know that you are enough, you release the need to constantly seek validation outside of yourself; you stop comparing to people who have what you want...because you realize that you already possess the strength within yourself to create your own success and happiness.
Success, in any area of your life, is 25% of what you’re doing and 75% who you’re BEING.
Ask yourself, “Who AM I BEING while communicating with my partner/the people in my life?”
Then ask yourself, “Do I like this person?”; “Do I like the way I communicate?”
Do you often focus on being so caring towards others that you forget your own needs?
Do you find yourself trying to take responsibility for other people’s feelings and problems to the point of emotional burnout?
Do you often say YES to things you don’t want to do because you don’t know how to say ‘no’ without disappointing others, expressing your true feelings without guilt, or causing confrontation?
Do you want to communicate openly without compromising your needs even if you fear confrontation?