Let Go Of Control By Slowing Down

Let Go Of Control By Slowing Down


We live in a society that is obsessed with control: from controlling one’s finances to controlling one’s physique, relationships and even one’ body’s physiological needs for rest.

 
Yet, too much control leads to chronic exhaustion, anxiousness, and the subsequent jarring fear-of-missing-out*. 

*The fear of missing out is defined by “a desire to stay continually connected with what others are doing.” 

The simple truth is we, human beings, are not supposed to control everything that happens around us or to be everywhere&and do everything AT THE SAME TIME.


Slowing down usually helps us gain momentum in the long-term. Taking charge of your life and making things happen should not come on the expense of your sanity or your sleep.


The best remedy for control-addiction is REST.

How often do you pause to breathe and let go of control?

I, myself, often get caught up in a go-go-go way of living. And I now know better that slowing down helps me be way more productive. Speaking of which, check out this article. 🙂

When you feel fatigued and overwhelmed, simply close your eyes and send your body much neeeded love and appreciation.

By inhaling love, we let go of the fear of not doing or being enough. By letting go of this fear, we instill the values of self-respect and self-nurturment.

~ After reading this post, please pause and do the following: close your eyes, take a few deep breathes, and connect to yourself by connecting to your heart.

Ask yourself: “What do I want today; What do I need from life; How can I support myself today; How can I say “yes” to others by not compromising my needs?”; How can I say “no” with no guilt?; “How can I enjoy myself more by loosening up my control?””

By nurturing ourselves, we nurture others!

~ With love and care,

Ana-Maria

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How To Communicate Effectively: In Interpersonal Relationships

How To Communicate Effectively: In Interpersonal Relationships

The most common reason for misunderstandings and conflict in intimate relationships is the presence of persistent withdrawal and the lack of consistent communication between partners.

When you feel upset, do you tend to close off instead of speaking up?

Please remember than shutting down (or stuffing in our emotions) doesn’t solve the causation of the problem; it only exacerbates it further.

Clear, non-violent, communication that delivers our emotions directly but also compassionately is key to resolving any conflict.

Speaking your needs in a relationship is not being needy; it is being emotionally mature. If you constantly run from your emotions in order to be perceived as ”drama-free,” eventually you will explode uncontrollably.

That said, expressing our emotions doesn’t have to come across as egocentric or self-centered either! There is a happy medium between emotional escapism and emotional explosion and is called effective communication

This is the kind of communication where we honor our truth and are also respectful and considerate of the other person’s point of view. It is much harder to stay present and hold space for the other person than shutting down and avoiding the conversation. But is the only way to avoid ambuiguity, confusion and passive aggresiveness.

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  • Maintaining healthy boundaries in our interactions with the world doesn’t involve building walls. 
  • Maintaining healthy boundaries involves building trust. Trust in our unique needs, desires and worthiness of unedited self-expression.
  • It isn’t our responsibility to teach others how to communicate effectively but is our responsibility to project clearly our own values, needs and opinions.

To more you speak up (with kindness and compassion!), the less you will shut down emotionally when you feel misunderstood or unappreciated.

When we take a step forward toward valuing our truth, our relationships begin to shift and transform towards reciprocated respect, trust and effective communication.

~ With love and care,
Ana-Maria

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