Are You An Active Listener?

Are You An Active Listener?

Deep Listening is the key to having a profound understanding of your correspondant and their deepest truths, challenges, pains, and aspirations.

Very often, it is not what people say to us but they way they say it: their intonation, body language and emotional presence.

When you are able to deeply listen, your own “monkey mind” goes quiet. Your own thoughts fade away. You just hear and absorb what the person is saying.

Why is the skill of being an active listener so important to your relationships? Because this way the person you are communicating with feels heard , and being heard is the experience of being acknowledged, respected, and accepted.

When you listen actively to what the other person is saying you are able to understand what they are telling you without referring to your own experience or bias.

Remember, it is about their experience, and not yours. More often than not, the people we are talking to desire to share what’s going on with them, without necessarily looking for advice.

Sharing is Caring.

Here are two exercises that teaches you how to practice listening without the desire to affect or respond to what the other person has to say – JUST LISTENING.

EXERCISE 1: MIRROR LISTENING

Mirror Listening is a technique to help you stay focused and “tuned in” when listening to other people. When you do mirror listening, you’ll be able to be present in the moment and tune out the distractions around you, as well as the distracting thoughts and feelings within.

Instructions

To get started with mirror listening, start by choosing a youtube video or a talk radio show program.

(1) Choose one person’s voice and start whispering the speaker’s words at the same time the speaker says them. (So that you are mirroring, not repeating after them.) Mirror everything they say, word-for-word.

(2) After you get the first part down, try leaving out the sound. Just move your mouth, mirroring the words at the same time they are being said.

(3) Finally, mirror the words in your mind only. You’ll hear in your mind how your thoughts mirror what is being said, word-for-word, without spoken sound or physical movement.

Give this exercise some time, as it will take practice and effort.

One last thing – after you practice the exercise above, try mirror listening with an actual person with whom you are having a conversation. Notice how the experience is different.

Here’s a practical way to use this exercise in the “real world.” When you are talking with someone and your mind starts to wander off or get distracted, try mirror listening for 20 or 30 seconds, and watch how you tune right back to the speaker.

EXERCISE 2: DYAD LISTENING

Dyads are structured listening exercises between people working in pairs. Dyads are an exceptionally deep and safe method of communication that fosters trust, honesty, and connection between people. This is largely due to the strength of the listening role. The basic premise of dyad work is that communication between any two people can be incredibly powerful and healing, and can be used for transformational purposes.

During a dyad, the person listening is attentive to what their partner is communicating while remaining almost completely silent. The listener does not respond or react to what their partner says, either through comments or non-verbal cues such as smiling or nodding.

Instructions:

Sit down with a partner at a comfortable distance apart, facing each other. You can sit on chairs or sit on cushions on the floor. The partners should be at the same height though. Sit with your back straight and with your head balanced above your spine. Keep your body relaxed and your breathing free and easy.

Listening partner’s role:

  • ·  Keep attention on the speaking partner
  • ·  Listen to what the other says
  • ·  Don’t interrupt the other
  • ·  Make no critical judgments of the other
  • · Don`t make assumptions, just listen
  • · Abstain from giving unsolicited advice
  • · Remember that it is not about you, but about them
  • · Even if you are not sure what to say, be emotionally present

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You are Worth It!

You are Worth It!

Dear reader,

If you have opened this blog-post, it is probably because the title of it spoke to your heart.

I know it has “spoken” to me in the moments when I`ve been at the bottom of helplessness.

For many years (from my teens to my early twenties), I lived with the belief system that there is something inherently wrong with me, that I am unlovable and unworthy of true happiness.

Yet I was always searching for answers. I always knew that there should be a solution to my chronic self-doubt.

How did I snap out of this mental limbo?

I gradually awakened to my authentic truth – to the essence of who I am. I allowed myself to be seen, loved, and appreciated for who I truly am.

And you can do it as well.

Please remember that:

  • Self-worth is a contract we make with ourselves.
  • It’s a mirror of our belief system and requires daily practice.
  • We decide that we are lovable, that we are worth it, that we are enough.

Not feeling “enough” is the root of most of our insecurities and sabotaging tendencies.

  • Not feeling enough tends to produce lower self-esteem.
  • Not feeling enough often results in disordered body image
  • Not feeling enough corresponds to the tendency of seeking constant validation and approval from others
  • Not feeling enough robs us of our will power to claim our worth and set our standards.

In short:

Not feeling enough is a disempowering mindset that creeps in everything we think, do, and experience as a result of our beliefs. In order to reverse it, we must trace the root of its cause and reframe our relationship to events from our past that have impacted us negatively.

Do you agree?

If we don’t believe we are worthy of happiness, no external validation/accomplishment/or material possessions will prove to us that we are.

The proof is in the pudding, they say. And we are the chefs of our mental cuisine.

The way we think about ourselves shows up in what we receive from others. When we build an unshakeable confidence that is based on our instrinsic qualities and self-respect, our confidence sets the example for how we deserve to be treated.

When we decide that we are worthy of respect and love regardless of our age, physical looks or material acquasations — our self-esteem begins to bloom and transform. And with it, our beliefs that we are -after all – E N O U G H.

➖➖➖➖♾

With love,

Ana-Maria

Reset Your Digestion With The 14-Day Metabolic Reset

Reset Your Digestion With The 14-Day Metabolic Reset

Are you ready to start the new decade fresh and energized?

I am here to help you decide whether or not it’s time to do a metabolic reset.

But first, why am I talking about a metabolic reset in the first place? It has nothing to do with fad diets or detox pills.

Let me explain!

The body is designed to be self-cleaning and to excrete toxins, but here’s the problem….

  • It can’t always handle the toxic overload present in today’s environment. 
  • Chemicals not excreted accumulate in our fat cells and cell membranes become internal toxins. 
  • These toxins corrode the body from the inside out, making it harder to lose weight, have more energy or feel good in your body. 

Ouch.

 So what is a metabolic reset exactly?

A metabolic reset is a gentle way of clearing excess toxins from the body so it can operate at it’s highest potential. 

Think of this reset as something that delivers an all access pass to boundless reserves of energy that you didn’t know you had! 

A metabolic reset is like restarting your computer in order to reboot the system and clear the bugs and viruses that slow it down from operating at its optimal capacity.

You’ll find that every part of your body works better simply by “switching on” your metabolism through cleansing.

My clients find that cleansing helps them:

  • Shed excess weight (especially belly fat) 
  • Boost energy
  • Feel lighter and cleaner
  • Decrease cravings
  • Experience deeper sleep and clearer skin
  • Improve your digestion (less gas and bloating) 
  • Feel more present in your relationships
  • Feel more confident in your body
  • Decrease congestion and allergy symptoms
  • Discover food sensitivities
  • Reconnect to your sensuality
  • Create new healthy habits that energize you 

 How will I know if it’s time for me to cleanse?

Glad you asked!

It’s time for you to cleanse if you answer “YES” to any of these questions:

  • You get bloated after eating
  • You tend to gain weight easily, especially in your belly
  • You have extra pounds that won’t come off with diet and exercise  
  • You have headaches more than occasionally 
  • You frequently belch or feel gassy or gurgling in your belly 
  • You tend to feel lethargic during the day
  • You have cravings for sugary or starchy foods  
  • You experience mood swings or anxiety 
  • You have difficulty focusing or experience foggy brain 
  • You feel alienated from your physical wisdom
  • You find it challenging to eat intuitively
  • You experience pain, muscle soreness, or stiffness in your joints
  • You feel addicted to activities that you know aren’t good for you… and yet you can’t stop
  • You feel anxious, upset, nervous, or downright cranky

 What do I do now?

In my health coaching practice, I lead my clients through a detailed, step-by-step 14-Day Cleanse, complete with cleansing menus, recipes, customized meditations, Q&A sessions, and daily guidelines.

If you answered “YES” to any of the symptoms above, then click here now to schedule a time to talk with me about cleansing. 

I’ll help you decide whether or not to do this reset, and if cleansing is right for you I’ll show you how to get started. 

To your best health in 2020!

~ Ana-Maria (lunavoda@icloud.com)

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Recognize Your Hunger Cues (Step-By-Step Guide)

Recognize Your Hunger Cues (Step-By-Step Guide)

Use these guidelines to learn how to honor your hunger and understand your fullness cues

If you want to build healthy habits around food, what you eat is only a tiny part of the big picture.

We also have to look at:

How do we “Honor Hunger”?

  • Tune into your internal signal that the body needs nourishment.
  • Recognize hunger – learn the signs.
  • Create an intuitive inner scale from 1-10.
    • 1 is just noticing hunger, 10 is starving
  • Start to plan for food when you are at a 2.

How do we “Honor Fullness”?

  • Create a fullness scale from 1-10.
    • 10 is stuffed, 1 is still starving
  • Aim for an 8 on the fullness scale – nourished and energized, satiated but not stuffed.

I suggest that your follow these guideline for at least 3 subsequent days and observe what happens!

~ Ana-Maria

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3 Proven Hooks For Creating New – Lasting- Healthy Habits

3 Proven Hooks For Creating New – Lasting- Healthy Habits

What You Need To Know To Build Healthy Habits That Stick

I get asked a lot what are my best tips for creating healthy habits. I call them the three juicy CCC: carecourage, and consistency


1. CARE 

Before even attempting to change your current lifestyle, you first have to know why do you want to do it. Does your goal to, let’s say, lose a few pounds feeds your ego, or does it support your mental and emotional wellness?

Need more guidance how to connect to your deep Why? read here.


Your choice to prioritize self-care should stem from your heart. Whatever your goal is, ask yourself: ”Why do I care so much to make this change?; ”What is my ”why”?”; ”How does my decision to change my lifestyle will benefit my well-being?”

2. COURAGE


Once you are set on your goal, you must practice bravery and courage. It isn’t easy to change old habits that have been solidly ingrained in your behavior for years. Most likely, your brain would try to ”protect” you from changing by tempting you to sabotage your progress.

Need more guidance how to reverse self-sabatoge? Check out this article.

Being courageous doesn’t mean we don’t stumble or that we don’t fall! It means we dare to be vulnerable and stand back again. Progress is never linear, and neither is courage. For that reason, you should care actively for your goal to keep your spirits high when things don’t go as smooth as you’d envisioned. And to keep your eye on your Why.

3. CONSISTENCY 

Once you prioritize self-care and dare to be courageous, the next step is to be consistent with your work. Please know that in six months you won’t remember the tough times when you’re close to giving up. You will only remember your courage to keep up with your self-care. By this point, you would have developed new habits and resolved limiting beliefs and constructive tendencies.


Changing is tough, but so worth it! I believe in You! 💜

How to know if you are ready for a change? Read this article.

~ Ana-Maria

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