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Why Feeling Afraid Is Actually A Good Thing

Why Feeling Afraid Is Actually A Good Thing

Have you ever felt shame for feeling fear? You are so not alone. Yet, being afraid doesn’t mean you are weak or less resilient and courageous. It simply means you are human.

Nobody on this planet is immune to fear. Fear is ingrained in our genetic make-up. We are programmed to seek pleasure and avoid pain.

In simple terms, this means that your brain often interprets change as equal to pain.

Therefore, your brain is sabotaging your progress, assuming it protects you from danger!

✖️ it tells you that CHANGING your diet equals pain.
✖️ it tells you that CHANGING your workout regimen is too hard.
✖️ it tells you that CHANGING your relationships is too much work.
✖️ it tells you that CHANGING your lifestyle is too inconvenient.
✖️ it tells you that CHANGING your habits is too uncomfortable.

In short, this part of your brain (called the critter brain) doesn’t care if your intention to change benefits your well-being or if endangers it. As far as your brain is concerned, ”changing” means danger; danger means pain, and pain means possible death. Ouch! 

Next time you feel afraid to change a habit, remember that feeling fear is part of the process. Your brain is programmed to shut down your motivation in order to PROTECT you. 

Your fear is a self-protective mechanism that mother nature has created for us in order to keep us alive. Similarly to working out, your brain needs time to adjust to doing the extra mile/pushing one more rep, and feeling safe at the same time.

Small changes create great results because your brain doesn’t see them as threats. 

On the contrary, if you push too hard and too fast, your immune system shuts down, and this leads to emotional and physical overwhelm. Slow and steady always wins the race!

So why feeling fear is a good thing? Because it is a signal that you are doing something outside of your comfort zone, and that you are stepping into the unknown. No great inventions would have been possible if we were not afraid to challenge the status quo and change our ways of thinking and being.

Next time you feel afraid, congratulate yourself for the bravery to try something new and evolve from your old “you.”

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p.s Fierce doesn’t mean FEAR-Less.

~ Keep thriving,

Ana-Maria

Life&Health Coach

Accept and Let It Go: How To Use Less Control and Be At Peace

Accept and Let It Go: How To Use Less Control and Be At Peace

True acceptance means letting go. 


What does it mean to let go of attachments? It means to accept what you cannot change and be at peace with the outcome: regardless if it is what you thought you wanted.

Life is an intricate balance of a constant push&pull. When we don’t resist the flow of the Universe, we flow effortlessly with its messages.

What we resist, however, always persists. We attract the same people and situations when we stay confined in the limitations of our mental conditioning. 

If you don’t make the conscious decision to change your reaction to events, you remain enslaved to outside influence. WHEN WE LEARN HOW TO WITNESS CHALLENGES WITH STILLNESS, PEACE, AND EMOTIONAL NEUTRALITY, WE EVENTUALLY LEARN THE LESSON AND GROW FROM OUR MISTAKES.

The practice of acceptance and letting go means we stop waiting on other people to “complete” us, make us feel loved, seen, wanted, appreciated, and recognized for our accomplishments. 

No one can complete us if we don’t already feel whole and complete in ourselves. If you don’t think you’re worthy of love, success, and happiness, life will confirm these beliefs.

Loving yourself is far different from being prideful or self-conceited. The practice of conscious self-love means you accept your imperfections and feel comfortable in your skin without searching for outside approval. 

We only have one” now” to love, accept, and appreciate ourselves. We either seize it, or we miss another day to shine and thrive.

It isn’t our responsibility to monitor other people’s perception of us but is our responsibility to project clearly our boundaries and self-respect. 

When we take a step forward toward valuing ourselves more, our relationships begin to shift and transform towards mutual trust, respect, and acceptance. 

How do you practice letting go? Let me know!



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Let Go Of Control By Slowing Down

Let Go Of Control By Slowing Down


We live in a society that is obsessed with control: from controlling one’s finances to controlling one’s physique, relationships and even one’ body’s physiological needs for rest.

 
Yet, too much control leads to chronic exhaustion, anxiousness, and the subsequent jarring fear-of-missing-out*. 

*The fear of missing out is defined by “a desire to stay continually connected with what others are doing.” 

The simple truth is we, human beings, are not supposed to control everything that happens around us or to be everywhere&and do everything AT THE SAME TIME.


Slowing down usually helps us gain momentum in the long-term. Taking charge of your life and making things happen should not come on the expense of your sanity or your sleep.


The best remedy for control-addiction is REST.

How often do you pause to breathe and let go of control?

I, myself, often get caught up in a go-go-go way of living. And I now know better that slowing down helps me be way more productive. Speaking of which, check out this article. 🙂

When you feel fatigued and overwhelmed, simply close your eyes and send your body much neeeded love and appreciation.

By inhaling love, we let go of the fear of not doing or being enough. By letting go of this fear, we instill the values of self-respect and self-nurturment.

~ After reading this post, please pause and do the following: close your eyes, take a few deep breathes, and connect to yourself by connecting to your heart.

Ask yourself: “What do I want today; What do I need from life; How can I support myself today; How can I say “yes” to others by not compromising my needs?”; How can I say “no” with no guilt?; “How can I enjoy myself more by loosening up my control?””

By nurturing ourselves, we nurture others!

~ With love and care,

Ana-Maria

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How To Communicate Effectively: In Interpersonal Relationships

How To Communicate Effectively: In Interpersonal Relationships

The most common reason for misunderstandings and conflict in intimate relationships is the presence of persistent withdrawal and the lack of consistent communication between partners.

When you feel upset, do you tend to close off instead of speaking up?

Please remember than shutting down (or stuffing in our emotions) doesn’t solve the causation of the problem; it only exacerbates it further.

Clear, non-violent, communication that delivers our emotions directly but also compassionately is key to resolving any conflict.

Speaking your needs in a relationship is not being needy; it is being emotionally mature. If you constantly run from your emotions in order to be perceived as ”drama-free,” eventually you will explode uncontrollably.

That said, expressing our emotions doesn’t have to come across as egocentric or self-centered either! There is a happy medium between emotional escapism and emotional explosion and is called effective communication

This is the kind of communication where we honor our truth and are also respectful and considerate of the other person’s point of view. It is much harder to stay present and hold space for the other person than shutting down and avoiding the conversation. But is the only way to avoid ambuiguity, confusion and passive aggresiveness.

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  • Maintaining healthy boundaries in our interactions with the world doesn’t involve building walls. 
  • Maintaining healthy boundaries involves building trust. Trust in our unique needs, desires and worthiness of unedited self-expression.
  • It isn’t our responsibility to teach others how to communicate effectively but is our responsibility to project clearly our own values, needs and opinions.

To more you speak up (with kindness and compassion!), the less you will shut down emotionally when you feel misunderstood or unappreciated.

When we take a step forward toward valuing our truth, our relationships begin to shift and transform towards reciprocated respect, trust and effective communication.

~ With love and care,
Ana-Maria

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Be B.A.D (Proven Technique To Tame Our Rebellious Inner Child)

Be B.A.D (Proven Technique To Tame Our Rebellious Inner Child)

Do you want to break free from your routine without breaking the law? 🙂 This blogpost is for you!

Note: Being B.A.D is intentionally meant as a separate (and occasional) activity, in addition to our established self-care.

Self-care is the routine we perform on a daily basis to keep our emotional, physical and mental health in check, whereas being B.A.D is about breaking the routine and indulging in your favorite, quo-on-quo, “naughty” pleasures.:)

Sometimes, we just want to be B.A.D. This is a manifestation of the Rebellious Inner Child Syndrome. What does our inner child want? She wants attention, adventure, creativity, and (overall) more fun.

B.A.D. is an acronym that stands for:
B = Break free from your routine
A = Act naughty
D – Do some fun crazy stuff!!

When we deprive our inner child of our attention, eventually she finds a way to rebel: whether is through obsessions with different addictions (binge eating, overspending, orthorexia), self-sabotage or other means of seeking attention.

If we don`t nurture our inner child with love and attention, we numb a part of ourselves that needs to be expressed. Eventually, this neglect results in different issues: from commitment issues to attachment issues, from undereating to compulsive eating tendencies, from completely disregarding the body to obsessing with our physical image. The aftermath would look different for each person, but it comes from the same place: our inner child feels neglected and is acting out.

Experimental Exercise Related to Being B.A.D

Create a list of “bad” behaviors or activities that are not deconstructive to your health and bring you a lot of joy and excitement. Think of activities that you don`t usually do but have always wanted to try out, or do more of. Let your imagination go a bit wild! You have full permission to get very creative with this exercise.:))

For example, last week I decided to nurture my inner child by taking a day off, treating myself with a nice coffee and spending a few hours at a coffee shop reading a book!

Being B.A.D doesn`t have to be that extravagant either! It simply means you are breaking from your usual routine and doing something exciting and fun.:)

I really hope you enjoy this exercise. Forward it to a friend and why not be B.A.D together?:) The more people break B.A.D at the same time, the merrier!

~ Ana-Maria

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3 Proven Hooks For Creating New – Lasting- Healthy Habits

3 Proven Hooks For Creating New – Lasting- Healthy Habits

What You Need To Know To Build Healthy Habits That Stick

I get asked a lot what are my best tips for creating healthy habits. I call them the three juicy CCC: carecourage, and consistency


1. CARE 

Before even attempting to change your current lifestyle, you first have to know why do you want to do it. Does your goal to, let’s say, lose a few pounds feeds your ego, or does it support your mental and emotional wellness?

Need more guidance how to connect to your deep Why? read here.


Your choice to prioritize self-care should stem from your heart. Whatever your goal is, ask yourself: ”Why do I care so much to make this change?; ”What is my ”why”?”; ”How does my decision to change my lifestyle will benefit my well-being?”

2. COURAGE


Once you are set on your goal, you must practice bravery and courage. It isn’t easy to change old habits that have been solidly ingrained in your behavior for years. Most likely, your brain would try to ”protect” you from changing by tempting you to sabotage your progress.

Need more guidance how to reverse self-sabatoge? Check out this article.

Being courageous doesn’t mean we don’t stumble or that we don’t fall! It means we dare to be vulnerable and stand back again. Progress is never linear, and neither is courage. For that reason, you should care actively for your goal to keep your spirits high when things don’t go as smooth as you’d envisioned. And to keep your eye on your Why.

3. CONSISTENCY 

Once you prioritize self-care and dare to be courageous, the next step is to be consistent with your work. Please know that in six months you won’t remember the tough times when you’re close to giving up. You will only remember your courage to keep up with your self-care. By this point, you would have developed new habits and resolved limiting beliefs and constructive tendencies.


Changing is tough, but so worth it! I believe in You! 💜

How to know if you are ready for a change? Read this article.

~ Ana-Maria

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Learn How To Protect Your Energy

Learn How To Protect Your Energy

If you are surrounded by people who bring you down, you’re very likely to succumb to their negativity. But that shouldn’t be the case! 

1) Accept that you’re not responsible for other people’s behavior.

But you’re responsible for your reaction to what happens around you. Forgiving injustice doesn’t mean you condone it. It means you choose to protect and honor your sanity. You forgive in order to set yourself free from grudges! Forgiveness is an act of self-care. 

2) Accept that suffering often drives progress. 

Think about it: if your job makes you miserable, your relationships don’t fulfill you, or your body doesn’t deal happy and healthy — that in itself is a baddass motivation for moving on and changing your life! If it is unbearable to remain stuck in unhappy life, it becomes bearable to face your fears, seek help, and move on. 

3) Accept that reward is on the other side of sacrifice.

What happens after a sweaty exercise that kicked your butt a hundred times in a row? You brush off the sweat and feel amazing! The endorphins kick in and you forget about how hard the workout seemed in the beginning. Now you’ve entered the joyous state of victory and self-accomplishment. 

Yes, hard work is hard. Change is hard. But it pays off!



Ask yourself: do you prefer to pay the price of stress and misery or do you prefer to pay the cost of changing your mindset, and to improve the quality of your relationship to yourself and others?


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