How To Communicate Effectively: In Interpersonal Relationships

How To Communicate Effectively: In Interpersonal Relationships

The most common reason for misunderstandings and conflict in intimate relationships is the presence of persistent withdrawal and the lack of consistent communication between partners.

When you feel upset, do you tend to close off instead of speaking up?

Please remember than shutting down (or stuffing in our emotions) doesn’t solve the causation of the problem; it only exacerbates it further.

Clear, non-violent, communication that delivers our emotions directly but also compassionately is key to resolving any conflict.

Speaking your needs in a relationship is not being needy; it is being emotionally mature. If you constantly run from your emotions in order to be perceived as ”drama-free,” eventually you will explode uncontrollably.

That said, expressing our emotions doesn’t have to come across as egocentric or self-centered either! There is a happy medium between emotional escapism and emotional explosion and is called effective communication

This is the kind of communication where we honor our truth and are also respectful and considerate of the other person’s point of view. It is much harder to stay present and hold space for the other person than shutting down and avoiding the conversation. But is the only way to avoid ambuiguity, confusion and passive aggresiveness.

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  • Maintaining healthy boundaries in our interactions with the world doesn’t involve building walls. 
  • Maintaining healthy boundaries involves building trust. Trust in our unique needs, desires and worthiness of unedited self-expression.
  • It isn’t our responsibility to teach others how to communicate effectively but is our responsibility to project clearly our own values, needs and opinions.

To more you speak up (with kindness and compassion!), the less you will shut down emotionally when you feel misunderstood or unappreciated.

When we take a step forward toward valuing our truth, our relationships begin to shift and transform towards reciprocated respect, trust and effective communication.

~ With love and care,
Ana-Maria

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Self-Love Practices

Self-Love Practices

Love, scientifically speaking, is not more than an illusion created by a mix of chemicals and hormones that produce the fuzzy feeling we feel in our heart for another person.

Yet, philosophically speaking, there is more to love than the “feeling” we associate with its presence or lack.

Love is a choice. Love is a daily commitment to validating that choice with our actions. Love doesn’t fade, even when the sexual attraction begins to subside. Love is caring and always present, even when we hurt, or experience pain. Love is omnipresent. It exists in and for all of us. Love is our state of consciousness and is our responsibility to access and spread it generously to those we encounter.

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A common misconception is that love just happens to us without us doing anything to attract it to our life. True, it is very possible (and frequently occurring) to meet a stranger that emanates magnetizing charm that pervades our imagination and succumbs us our hormonal state to a state of abiding arousal, also known as infatuation

Yet, technically speaking, we owe that attraction to the exchange of pheromones and our fantasy-subconscious that is responsible for our perception of the ‘other’ as a highly compatible lover: which, by itself, does NOT necessarily translate to long-lasting partnership compatibility!

In other words, in order to attract a relationship that lives beyond our present state of lack (as, very often, we get attracted to people that possess a quality we want, but don’t have) we must enter a state of mind that is already tuned to self-love and compassion.
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We cannot attract (or even witness love, even if is there in front of us) if we don’t feel as we can/want/or are ready for it.
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Love is everywhere around us. It is not a container that ever goes empty.

And You, dear reader, have an equal share.

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Before you start dating please first ask yourself:

    • Are you ready to attract a thriving, loving relationship that fills us up from the inside out?

 

    • A relationship that is not conditional and is ever-flowing?

 

  • A loving relationship that is not selfish and is healing?

If the answer is YES then you must love yourself first before loving someone else. If the answer is NO then you must love yourself even more before loving someone else.

Here are my personal practices for self-love.

  1. Gratitude. Every day find a time in your day to be grateful for having a heart that can love and be loved by others. Live your life as you already have the intimate partner you desire. How would it be to have them in your life? How would you feel? How would you act? Imagine the excitement you will feel spending time with them or responding to their text message. Now send all of that ecstatic vibration back to your heart and thank the Universe for sending love your way, every day.)
  2. Spending time doing something you love. That’s an activity that is uniquely yours but I recommend you to do an activity that is independent of external stimuli and you can do by yourself. Check out my curate your happiness ritual article.
  3. Exercise and eat proper nutrition for your body. This one is SO important! You need to feel connected to your body to release stress and connect to your creative power (the same chakra – Svadhishthana – associated with our sexuality, fyi!). Eating an alkaline diet will help you to stay hydrated and more in tune with your body and heart. Loving your body brings you self-respect, confidence and healthy sexuality.
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Practicing yoga is a gentle and loving way to energize your body and release stress.

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The more love we feel for ourselves, and for the world around us, the more love we will attract to our lives.
Do you love yourself enough? Take a moment to reflect and be very honest with yourself…

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~ With Love and Care,

Ana-Maria

 

 

 

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A Return To Love

A Return To Love

The quote in the caption belongs to Marianne Williamson whom I respect deeply because she has the gift to write about our human imperfections in a compassionate and non-preaching way. 

In her book, A Return To Love, she shares her own experience of transforming fear into love and overcoming behavioral traits that prevented her from attracting love. Ultimately, the harsh truth is that sometimes we are own enemy when it comes to happiness. Somehow we choose to remain in the “comfort zone” of being miserable and a victim of our circumstances than to be brave and start giving love first.

Being a carrier of love is the only path towards unconditional acceptance and freedom from fear. It is when we condition our state of being loved on external circumstances than we get stuck into old patterns and behaviors.

As the wise adage goes: “Nothing happens until I make action!”

What is the last book quote that inspired you?

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Please let me know in the comments below or DM me on my Instagram: ana_maria_georgie.

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