How To Resolve Conflict in 5 Steps
Success, in any area of your life, is 25% of what you’re doing and 75% who you’re BEING.
Ask yourself, “Who AM I BEING while communicating with my partner/the people in my life?”
Then ask yourself, “Do I like this person?”
My definition of success includes not just our own health and prosperity but also the health and wellbeing of our immediate connections; especially the ones with our partners.
The more our stress levels rise, the less grounded we feel, and the less likely we are to practice self-awareness.
Also, the higher our stress levels rise, the harder it makes our immune system work and actually weakens it.
Stressed people tend to get snappy and defensive, which quickly escalates to conflicts resulting from poor communication.
Have you ever noticed that when you have a thousand things seemingly happening at once, you might be quicker to snap at someone when they ask you something?
Pandemic life is a cause of overwhelm for a lot of people which often leaves them feeling anxious, moody and irritable.
The truth is that now, more than ever, it is vitally important to practice mindfulness and avoid unnecessary arguments with the people in your life.
At the end of the day, you are the one that SUFFERS if your relationships are not thriving,
How To Resolve Conflict in 5 Steps:
1. Find the cause… ask empathetic questions like “When did you begin feeling this way?”… “How did this problem begin…?” … “How can I fix this/help you fix it?”
2. Uncover the “why” underneath the why of the conflict... conflicts escalate like a volcano… you have to dig deeper than the eruption to find the sequential order of events that are the root of the cause
3. Involve the other person and work as a team … make sure you understand their perspective and are not accusative or judgmental… Ask questions such as “How can we move past this?”… “How can I make sure I am learning from this conversation?”
4. Come up with a solution that is acceptable for all parties.… resolutions are not sustainable unless all parties work as a team and take full responsibility for their behavior
5. Create actions steps that involve a clear pathway forward …avoiding future conflicts before they even arise by remembering the lesson and preventing the conflict from repeating itself … ask yourself what do you plan to do if a conflict arises again and create anchors
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