“Comparison Is the Thief of Joy” : How To Stop Comparing And Start Living
Stop putting other people on a pedestal. We all have our own struggles and weaknesses. And, guess what, we all fall into the comparison trap. The difference is whether you allow yourself to stay trapped in this limbo.
When we compare ourselves to others, we usually do it from a place of uncertainty and self-doubt. In order to prevent these feelings from causing us to feel inferior, we have to check in with ourselves and release the belief that there is an actual difference between us and the people we compare ourselves to.
Because there is not. It is our ego that projects the illusion that we are not enough, and that other people have it all figured out. That`s not true.
There Is Always Enough For All of Us.Tweet
But what there is is a social construct that creates barriers and walls between people.
In reality, at the offset of our biological lives we were once all innocent babies. Yet, each of us has a unique story, a unique path and a unique set with life lessons for us to learn from before attaining our goals. You don’t accidentally meet people who seem “better” or appear more “successful,” or as if they “have what we don’t.” You notice them – “everywhere” – around you only if you feel incomplete or less confident in your uniques abilities, physical appearance and professional skills. When you feel strongly confident in yourself, you stop obsessing (and taking it personally) about other people are doing/or display to be doing.
Before comparing yourself to others, ask yourself:
“Why does this person or situation trigger me to feel bad about myself?”;
“Does comparing to them uplift me or does it bring me self-doubt?”
“Do I compare myself to others because I genuinely look up to them, or because deep down I doubt my equal worthiness of success?
The more you compare yourself to others, the more you remain stuck in the gloomy feeling of misery, unworthiness, and perpetual self-doubt.
The sooner you release the pattern of comparing yourself to other people, the quicker you begin to adopt the new belief that there is an equal share of abundance, happiness and success for all of us.
And that we all have access to it. The only true competition is between Your Former Limitations and Your Quest For Liberation.
The more genuine joy and admiration you feel for people who seem to have achieved more than you, the more the Universe is going to match your vibration of happiness and self-worth, and bring you exactly what you want to achieve.Tweet
In order to become the person you want to be, you must act as that person.
Does the person you want to become is envious and doubtful, or is she joyful, peaceful and feeling enough?
When you know that you are enough, you release the need to constantly seek validation outside of yourself; you stop comparing to people who have what you want...because you realize that you already possess the strength within yourself to create your own success and happiness.