Elevate Your Confidence To Pursue Your Dreams With Passion
Key Interpersonal Communication Skills You Need To Improve To Express Your Needs Without Guilt
Shutting down (or stuffing in our emotions) doesn’t solve the root of the problem’s causation; it only exacerbates it further.
Why?
Because if you have the pattern of not expressing your needs clearly, it is likely that, eventually, your numbed feelings will erupt like a volcano causing you to snap at people or say things you regret.
Have you ever vented to your friends about a mean boss or overly competetive co-workers?
A not so schocking fact is that only 12 % of employees who leave a well-paid job is for financial reasons… The other 88 percent boils down to job dissatisfaction and NOT feeling appreciated.
Isn’t it ironic how often high-earners feel pressured to perform well while struggling with mental health issues, an IMPOSTER Syndrome, lack of sleep, low energy, chronic stress…and a crumbling relationship at home?!
When we feel underappreciated we: * Are less productive * Withdraw emotionally * Feel taken for granted * Lose trust and respect * Lack deep contentment * Experience insecurities * Have lower life satisfaction * Have lower job satisfaction
And as Stephen Covey said: “Next to physical survival, the greatest need of a human being is psychological survival — to be understood, to be affirmed, to be validated, to be appreciated.” Remember… what you appreciate, appreciates back! For a transformation to occur in your relationships, it has to occur in YOU first!
Maintaining healthy boundaries in our interactions with the world doesn’t involve building walls.
Maintaining healthy boundaries involves building trust. Trust in our unique needs, desires and worthiness of unedited self-expression.
It isn’t our responsibility to teach others how to communicate effectively but is our responsibility to project clearly our own values, needs and opinions.
To more you speak up (with kindness and compassion!), the less you will shut down emotionally when you feel misunderstood or unappreciated.
When we take a step forward toward valuing our truth, our relationships begin to shift and transform towards reciprocated respect, trust and effective communication.
If you need more help learning how to ask for what you want (in all areas), I recommend you reading this article and watching the free webinar I created on the topic.
You Attract WHO You Are, NOT What You Want And WHO you are is a byproduct of your upbringing and the relationship patterns inherited by your parents/society You must first understand your inner child archetype and release the emotional triggers holding you back.
Success, in any area of your life, is 25% of what you’re doing and 75% who you’re BEING. Ask yourself, “Who AM I BEING while communicating with my partner/the people in my life?” Then ask yourself, “Do I like this person?”; “Do I like the way I communicate?”