Key Interpersonal Communication Skills You Need To Improve To Express Your Needs Without Guilt

Shutting down (or stuffing in our emotions) doesn’t solve the root of the problem’s causation; it only exacerbates it further.


Because if you have the pattern of not expressing your needs clearly, it is likely that, eventually, your numbed feelings will erupt like a volcano causing you to snap at people or say things you regret.

Have you ever vented to your friends about a mean boss or overly competetive co-workers?

A not so schocking fact is that only 12 % of employees who leave a well-paid job is for financial reasons…

The other 88 percent boils down to job dissatisfaction and NOT feeling appreciated.

Isn’t it ironic how often high-earners feel pressured to perform well while struggling with mental health issues, an IMPOSTER Syndrome, lack of sleep, low energy, chronic stress…and a crumbling relationship at home?!

You deserve BETTER!

​When we feel underappreciated we:

* Are less productive 
* Withdraw emotionally
* Feel taken for granted 
* Lose trust and respect 
* Lack deep contentment 
* Experience insecurities 
* Have lower life satisfaction 
* Have lower job satisfaction 

And as Stephen Covey said:

“Next to physical survival, the greatest need of a human being is psychological survival — to be understood, to be affirmed, to be validated, to be appreciated.”

Remember… what you appreciate, appreciates back!

For a transformation to occur in your relationships, it has to occur in YOU first!

This applies to your work environment as well.

You are either a good communicator or not!

Key Interpersonal Communication Skills you need to Improve

1. Taking responsibility for 
mastering your speech and body language
2. Learning active listening
3. Recognizing your bias
4. Improving your rapport
5. Building confidence
6. Remembering that the other person is a human being too
7. Being kind AND assertive
8. Counting to 3 before you say something you might regret
9. Using the Meta Model (Who, What, When, How)
10. Not being defensive, snappy or accusative
Tap on the photo to learn more about the Meta Model

When you feel upset/annoyed/frustrated, do you tend to close off instead of speaking up?

Do you tend to bottle down your emotions, or do you know how to express them without sounding accusative or defensive?

Clear, non-violent communication that delivers our emotions directly and compassionately is key to resolving any conflict.

Speaking your needs is not being needy; it is a sign of emotional maturity.

If you continuously run from your emotions to be perceived as ”drama-free,” you will eventually explode uncontrollably.

That said, expressing our emotions doesn’t have to come acrss as egocentric or self-centered either! 

There is a happy medium between emotional escapism and emotional explosion which is called effective communication

It is much harder to stay present and hold space for the other person than shutting down and avoiding the conversation. 

And is the only way to avoid ambiguity, confusion and passive aggressiveness.

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  • Maintaining healthy boundaries in our interactions with the world doesn’t involve building walls. 
  • Maintaining healthy boundaries involves building trust. Trust in our unique needs, desires and worthiness of unedited self-expression.
  • It isn’t our responsibility to teach others how to communicate effectively but is our responsibility to project clearly our own values, needs and opinions.

To more you speak up (with kindness and compassion!), the less you will shut down emotionally when you feel misunderstood or unappreciated.

When we take a step forward toward valuing our truth, our relationships begin to shift and transform towards reciprocated respect, trust and effective communication.

~ With love and care,

If you need more help learning how to ask for what you want (in all areas), I recommend you reading this article and watching the free webinar I created on the topic.

Next read: Are you a people’s pleaser?

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