Why?
Because if you have the pattern of not expressing your needs clearly, it is likely that, eventually, your numbed feelings will erupt like a volcano causing you to snap at people or say things you regret.
The most common reason for misunderstandings and conflict in intimate relationships is persistent withdrawal and the lack of consistent communication between partners.
This applies to your work environment as well.
You are either a good communicator or not!
When you feel upset/annoyed/frustrated, do you tend to close off instead of speaking up?
Do you tend to bottle down your emotions, or do you know how to express them without sounding accusative or defensive?
Clear, non-violent communication that delivers our emotions directly and compassionately is key to resolving any conflict.
Speaking your needs is not being needy; it is a sign of emotional maturity.
If you continuously run from your emotions to be perceived as ”drama-free,” you will eventually explode uncontrollably.
That said, expressing our emotions doesn’t have to come acrss as egocentric or self-centered either!
There is a happy medium between emotional escapism and emotional explosion and is called effective communication.
It is much harder to stay present and hold space for the other person than shutting down and avoiding the conversation.
And is the only way to avoid ambiguity, confusion and passive aggressiveness.
To more you speak up (with kindness and compassion!), the less you will shut down emotionally when you feel misunderstood or unappreciated.
When we take a step forward toward valuing our truth, our relationships begin to shift and transform towards reciprocated respect, trust and effective communication.
~ With love and care,
Ana-Maria
If you need more help learning how to ask for what you want (in all areas), I recommend you reading this article and watching the free webinar I created on the topic.
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My name is Ana-Maria I am the founder and CEO of Luna Voda Coaching Certified Health & Life Coach with ten years of experience in the wellness industry as a dance-fitness instructor and meditation practitioner Mastery in Transformational Coaching with a focus on overcoming childhood trauma, and permanently rewiring limiting beliefs, patterns, and self-doubt on […]
