A negative bias is a term used by psychologists (as Dr. Rick Hanson, in his book Hardwiring Happiness) to describe our human tendency to concentrate on the negative and neglect or minimize the positive.
According to Harris, back in the day, when our predecessors’ mere goal was reproduction and survival, every abrupt noise was perceived as danger triggering the fight or flight impulse.
Evolutionary, it was a safety measure to remain ‘negative’ that the unknown sound is a tiger and we better run rather than remain “positive” that it is not.
In today’s terms: imagine you are having an exceptionally marvelous week!
You feel good about yourself, find time to exercise, eat nourishing food, get enough sleep, feel productive at work and even get a promotion.
Yet, just to contrast those peak moments, ONE day, for example, you don’t hear your alarm, get up late, spill coffee on your…
Love, scientifically speaking, is not more than an illusion created by a mix of chemicals and hormones that produce the fuzzy feeling we feel in our heart for another person.
Yet, philosophically speaking, there is more to love than the “feeling” we associate with its presence or lack.
Love is a choice. Love is a daily commitment to validating that choice with our actions. Love doesn’t fade, even when the sexual attraction begins to subside. Love is caring and always present, even when we hurt, or experience pain. Love is omnipresent. It exists in and for all of us. Love is our state of consciousness and is our responsibility to access and spread it generously to those we encounter.
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A common misconception is that love just happens to us without us doing anything to attract it to our life. True, it is…
Christmas (in a non-theological meaning) celebrates the rise of the longer days following the Winter Solstice. It’s a universal holiday that is meant to bring people together, regardless of their religious beliefs.
Every year, we meet together to celebrate the return of the Sun, and to prepare for the upcoming calendar year.
Here are my tips for having a more mindful holiday.
Make an effort to engage with your relatives even if you don`t feel close.
Focus on their stories instead of talking first. Using empathy is a precursory to avoiding unnecessary arguments.
Congratulate them on their achievements, or encourage them if they are trying out something new.
Instead of being a passive guest who just shows up at the door, says ‘hello’, tastes the food, and leaves – bring something you’ve made yourself, or ask how can you contribute to the celebration.
Instead of choosing generic gift cards, pick something that…
I shared this recipe with friends of mine and it was a great success! I hope you enjoy it as well.
A cup of soaked almonds (have to be raw and unsalsted)
One medium avocado
Four-five pitted medjool dates (soaked overnight as well)
Two tablespoons of cacao
A half of cup of unsweetened coconut milk
A cup of raw cranberries
A pinch of cayenne (only if you want the spicy kick!)
1) Place your pre-soaked almonds (for a minimum of 20 min) in your food processor and leave them to blend for about 10 min or until the almonds release their fat and start to form a buttery consistency.
2)Add the avocado, your coconut milk and the dates and blend by pulsing for about a minute.
3) Add the cranberries. You may also add a touch of stevia/monk fruit (or a handful of…
What You Need To Know To Build Healthy Habits That Stick
I get asked a lot what are my best tips for creating healthy habits. I call them the three juicy CCC: care, courage, and consistency.
Before even attempting to change your current lifestyle, you first have to know why do you want to do it. Does your goal to, let’s say, lose a few pounds feeds your ego, or does it support your mental and emotional wellness?
Need more guidance how to connect to your deep Why? read here.
Your choice to prioritize self-care should stem from your heart. Whatever your goal is, ask yourself: ”Why do I care so much to make this change?; ”What is my ”why”?”; ”How does my decision to change my lifestyle will benefit my well-being?”
Once you are set on your goal, you must practice bravery and courage. It isn’t easy to change old habits that have been solidly ingrained in your behavior for years. Most likely, your brain would try to ”protect” you from changing by tempting you to sabotage your progress.
Need more guidance how to reverse self-sabatoge? Check out this article.
Being courageous doesn’t mean we don’t stumble or that we don’t fall! It means we dare to be vulnerable and stand back again. Progress is never linear, and neither is courage. For that reason, you should care actively for your goal to keep your spirits high when things don’t go as smooth as you’d envisioned. And to keep your eye on your Why.
Once you prioritize self-care and dare to be courageous, the next step is to be consistent with your work. Please know that in six months you won’t remember the tough times when you’re close to giving up. You will only remember your courage to keep up with your self-care. By this point, you would have developed new habits and resolved limiting beliefs and constructive tendencies.
Changing is tough, but so worth it! I believe in You! 💜
How to know if you are ready for a change? Read this article.