29 Lessons I Learned In 29 Years

29 Lessons I Learned In 29 Years

29 lessons in 29 years

1. It is not always comfortable to be a nonconformist. And not everyone is supposed to understand or agree with you.

2. Loving yourself is a daily practice that begins with acceptance of everything that you are.

3. Saying “no” to requests is just as important as saying “yes” to your priorities.

4. Feeling vibrant and abundant is a choice we make every single day when we wake up.

5. Forgiveness is the conscious act of releasing the burden of carrying someone else’s mistakes.

6. Confidence derives from feeling attuned to your self-worth: with all of your flaws and imperfections.

7. All projections of our ego serve to teach us how to tame our judgment and be more compassionate with each other.

8. No one can love us the way we deserve to be loved if we don’t allow for this love to merge with our self-love.

9. If we always play “safe” because of the risk of getting hurt, we miss out on the opportunity to seize the moments when our breath gets taken away. 

10. If we base our self-esteem on someone else’s validation, we deprive ourselves of our own approval.

11. Perfectionism is unforgiving, and it prays on our insecurities.

12. The root of most of our sorrows is the self-induced belief of not being enough. 

13. Regardless of one’s upbringing or past mistakes, at the core of our being, we were born enough.

14. Proper nourishment is a form of self-respect. The body is our friend, and it deserves care and attention.

15. The abyss of our fear can only be entered with the courage to follow this fear. 

16. If we hide from our truth, no one would be able to see us as well.

17. Sharing is a form of caring: there will always be someone benefiting from our gifts and passions.

18. When we are hungry for knowledge, our mind feeds itself on discovery and inquisitiveness.

19. I wish I knew all of this when I was nineteen. 🙂

20. If we have a solid vision of what we want, we will get there even if it takes us a couple of years.

21. Our physical attributes are meaningless unless we like ourselves, even if there is no one else to praise us.

22. Our body has innate intelligence whose voice gets muted unless we learn how to “listen” to its cues. 

23. Being an eloquent communicator is derived from mastering the skills of empathy.

24. Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable and honest bridges our heart the hearts of our audience.

25. Movement and rhythm are the tools our soul uses to express herself physically.

26. The key to emotional intelligence is honoring one’s emotions without being manipulated by them.

27. Having a purpose is not the same as having hobbies. Having hobbies adds joy to our lives. Having a purpose embodies the joy.

28. There is nothing more rewarding in this world than feeling and sharing unconditional love that doesn’t involve attachments.

29. Being a conscious human being is the first step to spreading the light that lives in all of us.

Are You Losing Focus?

Are You Losing Focus?

Remember the time you went to the pharmacy to buy bandages, and you spent 15 minutes wondering which kind to choose?

Correct. The irony is that too many options tend to leave us scattered and prone to underestimating the value of choosing ONE thing at the time and excelling at it, without getting deteriorated from our most important tasks.

If you find it difficult to stay focused on ONE thing at the time, don’t worry. I got you covered!

The  fear-of-missing-out (FOMO) is triggered by the lack of personal boundaries: to prioritize our main goals even if that means saying “no” to less important tasks or hobbies.

As Steve Jobs said, Innovation is saying no to 1,000 things.

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That means honoring our non-negotiable priorities.
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Honoring our non-negotiable priorities requires focus.

Having laser focus requires discipline.

First, allow me to say— I wasn’t born disciplined. I have always been swayed by multiple hobbies and interests:

I love dancing, I love traveling, I love art, I love photography, I love reading, I love writing, I love yoga, I love meeting new people.
However, my main focus, at the moment, is my coaching work. Why?! Because it’s humanitarian and it helps people to feel better.

Having hobbies is not the same as having a life purpose.

How did I say “no” to my other hobbies without feeling as if I was missing out?

By honoring my committed “YES” to coaching clients as my ONE primary focus.

We all have 24 h in a day. The key to being more disciplined is to being clear on what needs to be done FIRST before anything else. This means that, sometimes, we have to turn down requests and miss other fun activities. Remember, there is always be something else that seems appealing or more exciting to do than our current tasks. It is always our own choice how to spend out time.

It’s a perk and a peril to live in a society where there is an overflowing stream of options: from leisure to Netflix, to dining out and even dating. When we have too many options we often find it difficult to stay committed to one main thing.

Download the one-thing-check-list to get started.

Try the techniques in this exercise for at least five days and if you still need help to stay on track with your prioritize – schedule a consultation with me.

Why You Are Not Making Progress and What To Do Instead

Why You Are Not Making Progress and What To Do Instead

Procrastination is a dark tunnel that swallows us into a vacuum of stagnation that keeps us stuck — and, I am sure you can agree, feeling stuck sucks.

That doesn’t have to be the case though!

There are two main reasons why we procrastinate:

1) We don’t have clarity what to do in order to move forward and feel confused where to start

2) We know that what we have to do is A LOT so we choose to do nothing

Here are my recommendations on what to do FIRST to avoid doing ZERO.

1) Break your goal into small measurable action steps that are actionable and executable within a given time frame

For example: if you want to write a book, begin by writing the first chapter…and the next one, and the next one, etc…

The same formula applies to all projects. 

2) Create the habit of scheduling things based on their priority ranking

Again, it is essential to choose a time-frame that is realistic and doable.  

I like to structure my goals in a 90-day period. It is not too short to stress me out and not too long to allow me to stay behind.

When you create your list, begin with the goals that are of uttermost importance. Usually, they are the ones that are the most intimidating.

3) Declutter your mind by decluttering your environment

  • Does your work environment enhance your productivity, or does it lead you to distractions? 
  • Are you prioritizing your primary goals, or are you jiggling so many things you’re losing motivation to do any of them?
  • Do you check your e-mail/Facebook/Instagram more often than is necessary to stay up to date

Chances are the digital world can survive on its own even if you shut down your mobile device. By shutting down the external noise, we shut down the noise of distraction. This is one of the many reasons I practice meditation.:)

And if you feel you need more breaks, try the pomodoro technique*.

The pomodoro technique is a time management method based on 25-minute stretches of focused work broken by 3-to-5 minute breaks and 15-to-30 minute breaks following the completion of four work periods.

To recap:

1) When we start a new project, we are programmed to experience discomfort. Often we justify our procrastination by telling us that something else is more ”important.” The key to building discipline is to follow the order of your priorities by completing what`s most important FIRST before you move on to your next task.

2) The bigger the change, the smaller (yet consistent!) the action steps should be. No progress is linear, and occasional setbacks are to be expected. Instead of beating yourself, re-frame your mindset to navigate obstacles as you would navigate roadblocks – with patience.

3) By breaking down your goals in small actionable steps, you’re going to see progress without getting overwhelmed.

Small and steady wins the race!

Don`t foget to download your self-assessment sheet.

Cheering you on,

Ana-Maria

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Go Premium: Reinvent Yourself And Create The Life You Dream About (One-On-One Coaching)

Go Premium: Reinvent Yourself And Create The Life You Dream About (One-On-One Coaching)

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With Love and Care,

~ Ana-Maria

You are Worth It!

You are Worth It!

Dear reader,

If you have opened this blog-post, it is probably because the title of it spoke to your heart.

I know it has “spoken” to me in the moments when I`ve been at the bottom of helplessness.

For many years (from my teens to my early twenties), I lived with the belief system that there is something inherently wrong with me, that I am unlovable and unworthy of true happiness.

Yet I was always searching for answers. I always knew that there should be a solution to my chronic self-doubt.

How did I snap out of this mental limbo?

I gradually awakened to my authentic truth – to the essence of who I am. I allowed myself to be seen, loved, and appreciated for who I truly am.

And you can do it as well.

Please remember that:

  • Self-worth is a contract we make with ourselves.
  • It’s a mirror of our belief system and requires daily practice.
  • We decide that we are lovable, that we are worth it, that we are enough.

Not feeling “enough” is the root of most of our insecurities and sabotaging tendencies.

  • Not feeling enough tends to produce lower self-esteem.
  • Not feeling enough often results in disordered body image
  • Not feeling enough corresponds to the tendency of seeking constant validation and approval from others
  • Not feeling enough robs us of our will power to claim our worth and set our standards.

In short:

Not feeling enough is a disempowering mindset that creeps in everything we think, do, and experience as a result of our beliefs. In order to reverse it, we must trace the root of its cause and reframe our relationship to events from our past that have impacted us negatively.

Do you agree?

If we don’t believe we are worthy of happiness, no external validation/accomplishment/or material possessions will prove to us that we are.

The proof is in the pudding, they say. And we are the chefs of our mental cuisine.

The way we think about ourselves shows up in what we receive from others. When we build an unshakeable confidence that is based on our instrinsic qualities and self-respect, our confidence sets the example for how we deserve to be treated.

When we decide that we are worthy of respect and love regardless of our age, physical looks or material acquasations — our self-esteem begins to bloom and transform. And with it, our beliefs that we are -after all – E N O U G H.

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With love,

Ana-Maria